What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Unsure / Questioning
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bicurious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

My First One Night Stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? A week

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Short, tanned German man with grey-green eyes.Met at a club, felt very ambiguous before the hookup

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We kissed in the club. At the end of the night, I spotted him again and went back to his place because my friend was going back to his friend’s place. I felt reluctant but I wanted an adventure. I said I’d come back just to look around – if I didn’t feel comfortable, I’d leave. We started kissing and he started stroking my pussy, which was so wet. I’d literally never felt that sort of pleasure before.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Lots of oral, from which I came. I felt good during it, he was very good with his hands. He was a good lover, quite respectful. It ended with him asking me to stay another night and me rejecting because I had a lot of work to do!

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt fine the next day. I knew he was and still is a womanizer. I feel slightly ambiguous. He is intelligent and that is usually what makes me like someone, so I am reluctant to hook-up again, to avoid attachment.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Everyone else was/is doing it, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, MDMA, ecstasy, molly

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friend. She just wanted me to be safe and she asked me to tell her next time.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I feel a bit disposable knowing that he has many other women on the go. I don’t want to be disposable, if I’m totally honest, I want to be the apple of someone’s eye.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was great with his hands. And he was very respectful.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I questioned my self confidence afterwards.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I am still unsure as to whether casual sex is right for me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great to know that other people are also comfortable with casual experiences but reading about cheats is a bit of a disappointment.

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