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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 16
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Belgium
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

My First One Night Stand

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him through a friend while we were shopping for a party at her house she was throwing because her parents weren’t home. He was kind of thin with dark hair. I hadn’t had sex in a while and thought about hitting on a friend of his at the party, because he was hot.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? His friend couldn’t make it to the party. I learned that he would sleep on the couch because he lived somewhat far away. I was going to sleep on the other couch because I would help to clean after the party.
After a while (I was already tipsy) I came back in from smoking outside and there wasn’t any chair left. He proposed that I sit on his lap as a joke and I did it. We continue doing to flirt and ended up making out a lot this evening.
My friend didn’t find this funny and we had to promise her not to have sex in her house. He then joked if outside was ok and she said yes laughing.
The party went in and at 3 am we all went to sleep.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After she went to her bedroom it was clear that we would have sex just because she didn’t want it. We kissed a lot and then went outside. It felt really good to finally have a dick inside me after 3 months of no sex. As we both were tipsy/kind of drunk the sex was good but not extraordinary.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went to sleep. The next day we acted totally normal because we thought our friend shouldn’t know about this one night stand. We all ate breakfast together and we both never talked again. We friended each other on Facebook but nothing more.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to a few friend about it. They were happy for me.
The friend who threw the party doesn’t know it. She thinks we just made out and was kind of pissed about it afterwards.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Making out a lot and finally having sex again.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I was drunk and don’t remember a lot of the details and didn’t feel as much as I could have.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was my first one night stand and I want to have a lot more.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is a great thing if it’s consensual.

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