What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Austin
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
First sexual experience with a girl
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on Tinder, and in person over pizza prior to the hookup. We go to the same school. She’s a junior majoring in business management or something. She’s absolutely gorgeous– long, wavy hair, beautiful brown eyes, banging’ personality. She’s a really interesting girl, and we have a lot in common. I couldn’t tell whether or not she had a girlfriend, but I didn’t ask and she didn’t mention anything.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She invited me to a party and picked me up from my dorm around 11pm, and from there we drove to her friend’s apartment. We sat at the bar, awkwardly spouting out fun facts over drinks. At first we were just sitting with our knees barely touching, then as we became more relaxed over the hour, her hand was on my leg and we kept moving closer and closer, and we both laughed and leaned forward and kissed until we were all over each other in the living room. I suggested that we go somewhere else and she led me downstairs.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? By this time we were a little bit shitfaced. We fucked on the floor next to the bed the entire night and it was honestly the best sex I’ve ever had. It was my first time having sex with a girl also the first time anyone’s made me orgasm. Surprisingly, I gave her multiple orgasms as well. Impressed. I’m pretty sure she said I love you a couple times. We fell asleep tangled up in each other and woke up the same way and fucked a little more. We didn’t want to get up and get dressed, but you know.. responsibilities or whatever.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She dropped me off and we agreed we’d hang out sometime after that. The next day was fine, she dropped me back off at my dorm. Nothing really happened. I hung out at her apartment maybe a week after, and she’s invited me to a few parties that I wasn’t able to make. We text occasionally. I was hoping to pursue something because she’s just really great, but once I saw how consistently she posts about her girlfriend of a year on social media, I backed off. We bought tickets to go to a concert in February. So I guess to conclude, we’re just friends now, but I’m still really into her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends in my dorm saw thee extensive amount of hickies on my neck, so they all gave me shit for it. I talked to my friends back home about it and we had some laughs. I guess they’re cool with it, I don’t know
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Best sex of my life.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Did I interfere with somebody’s relationship? Maybe, maybe not
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I went from “pretty sure I’m gay” to “definitely gay.” That’s about it.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is all I know. I’ve never been in a serious relationship.I find nothing wrong with casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It really interests me. I just read an article in The New Yorker which is how I found this.
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