by Natasha P.
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 55
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Washington DC
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Information Technology
What’s your current relationship status? Living with my husband as friends for financial reasons
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I’m technically pansexual, though I identify when asked as bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Approximately 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
My first Southern woman
How long ago did this hookup happen? about 20 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her at an all-womens’ bisexual party about 2 weeks prior. We started talking. She was petite, with curly sandy blonde hair, a pretty, suntanned face, and was perfectly proportioned. We immediately felt an attraction towards each other. Unfortunately, we lived about 1 1/2 hours apart, but it only took me 45 minutes to drive to her house from work.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The two of us exchanged emails at the party. Almost immediately, we each started talking about how attracted we were towards each other. Our emails became descriptions of kissing, going down on each other, sliding our fingers inside each other’s pussies, feeling each other come. She lived alone in an apartment in a house and asked me to come over one night after work, which I did.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I arrived at her house, and we each started drinking a beer and talking. She was an artist and showed me some of the sculpture and jewelry she had made. After about 10 minutes, we started kissing and making out on the sofa, each of us sliding our hands over the other one’s breasts. I felt her nipples harden and I could feel myself getting very wet. She pulled me over to the bed and we undressed each other. She went down on me first, sacking my nipples and finally reaching my clit. I gasped as she thrust her finger into me as she licked me. I came within 30 seconds, crying out loudly. My heart was pounding. It was a fantastic orgasm. She slid up and kissed me some more, and I started using my fingers to thrust into her as I slowly ran my tongue down her body. I then went down on her. She arched her back and yelled out within 10 seconds. I could feel the walls of her pussy throbbing around my fingers as I finished licking her clit.
We both laid in bed talking for a little while; she got up to get our beers, and we finished them. Finally, I told her I needed to get home because I had work the next day. We got dressed and kissed at the door for a few minutes before I left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We exchanged some more emails and had one other hookup about two weeks later that was just about the same as the first. We were very sexually compatible, but I didn’t see there being a chance for a real relationship; we were very different in a lot of ways outside of sexual compatibility.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends, and my husband (we were poly and had a rule that we always informed each other before hookups). Everyone I told was fine with it and asked if I was going to continue seeing her. I explained why I didn’t think so, and they accepted my judgment.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I quickly realized it wasn’t going to turn into a long term friendship.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I should probably be more careful about STD history (I’ve never caught anything, but that’s no excuse).
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very good idea.
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