What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
First Spring Break
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Just met him that day. Barely knew him. Very cute, though, one of the best-looking people I’ve ever known actually. Very fit. Maybe early to mid 20s.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Was at a beach party on the second night of spring break. I had done coke earlier so my judgment was a little off. Also drank quite a bit. Danced a bit there, made out with a few people. Lots of hot people there but one really stood out. I was with my friends and we had booked a two room, 4-bed hotel suite. So we all brought partners back. Mostly just to drink and do drugs but I think everyone ended hooking up.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Back at the suite, we made out more but I ended up coming down hard and telling him I wasn’t single. He was kind of insistent but eventually backed off, and we smoked some weed and then I went to go to sleep, wishing he had been a bit more insistent. My friend had hooked up with her guy, though, and since it was a double bedroom I obviously could not ignore them. I ended up thinking that I was missing out on my spring break, so I went back out to the lobby where my guy was lying down on the couch. We ended up fucking right there. He was fucking amazing and it was one of the best sexual experiences I’ve ever had. We were both exhausted by the end of it and just ended up sleeping right there.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had mixed feelings, some very negative ones but I was also happy to have made the most of my spring break. I never saw that guy again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex. The casualness of it and the fact that I won’t see that guy again.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was my second one night stand. My first one I had negative thoughts about but this one I felt mostly good about.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think when you are young casual sex is important, fun, great and can be very safe if you are smart. I do firmly believe that marriage has a role in society and that marriage should be monogamous and sacred, but I think prior to marriage you should be allowed to have fun without being looked down upon. I’ve had up and down feelings about casual sex but to be honest with myself it can be very great and is an important thing to experience.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great website! Good job
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