What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The guy was cute and I had known him for a couple months. We had lots of mutual friends and we had a lot in common. We had become pretty good friends over the past couple of months.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A friend and I were out for lunch and we decided to go to this guy’s house just to hang out. This guy previously had a crush on the friend I was with, but she was in a relationship at the time. We thought that if this guy and I hooked up then it would help him get over her so really it was my friend’s idea. That day when we were hanging out, the guy and I made out, but the actual hook up happened the next day.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?
Later that day, this guy texted me and asked if I wanted to come over the next day. That next day, I was scared and nervous but everyone was at that point where they wanted to lose their virginity for some reason. At his house, we cuddled, talked and made out for a couple hours, and at some point, he took his shirt off and turned off the lights and I started giving him head. I didn’t really know what I was doing, but he said it felt good. We both had never hooked up with anyone before so it was awkward but funny. We had sex briefly and then gave each other head after. Then we put our clothes back on and made out some more. After that, I went home.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt the same afterward. I didn’t expect anything more to happen to him and it didn’t. It was awkward for a long time, but now it was almost as if it never happened.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely, Everyone else was/is doing it, Peer pressure
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a couple close friends, they were confused at first because I guess I was thought to be innocent at the time since it was my first time doing anything other than making out. They were happy for me and they believed it was a good experience to have.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? There were repercussions that were dealt with which was an unpleasant experience to have people talk about you and call you things that made you feel so terrible about yourself, but it comes with hooking up I suppose.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Glad I got the experience when I did.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The way people talked about it afterward.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Prior to this, I thought I’d only have sex with someone I loved but once this happened my whole mindset changed.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is a great thing as long as both people are not in relationships and the sex is consensual and both people are honest with each other about their motives throughout.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great way for people to share their stories and know they’re not alone.
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