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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Los Angeles, United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Gay
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

First Time Having Gay Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was an older dude, 29 at the time. I was 20. He was a tall, 6’ white guy and was pretty built, he had a nice body. We met on Grindr, and initially met up for coffee before we went back to his hotel. He was definitely charming and super hot.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went back to his hotel room and just started talking. We started to talk about sex and I told him I was a virgin. I could tell that turned him on, which was turning me on. He saw I had a boner and asked me to show him.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At first I told him I just wanted to “mess around,” specifically just a hand job and maybe oral if it got there. He said that was fine and we began to make out. Pretty sure I was terrible since I’ve never really made out with anyone before this, especially a guy. He began to take off both my and his clothes, and guided my hand towards his cock. It was nice and hard, and as he touched mine, I could feel myself dripping wet. I was super turned on, so I asked him if he wanted to fuck me. He replied, “fuck yes.” He laid on the bed and I wrapped my lips around his cock, sucking the life out of him as he moaned. I assumed I was decent from his moaning. He got up and pushed me onto the bed on my stomach and began eating my ass. It was amazing, I was moaning like crazy. I begged him to fuck me so he grabbed a condom and lube, put me on my back and began to enter. It hurt (since clearly I wasn’t a virgin) so I screamed for him to take it out. It took a couple more tries, then he put me on my stomach and slid his cock inside my hole. This time it didn’t hurt, probably because I was more relaxed. He began to thrust inside of me; it felt so good, in between the moans I could only yell “fuck me daddy.” He pulled out and I noticed the condom had fallen off even though he was inside me. So basically we fucked bareback. I freaked out but he assured me it was an accident and that he was clean. I let him fuck me til he came all over my face and I finished all over myself; literally the biggest load I had ever shot.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt regret. 1. Because I lost my virginity to basically a stranger. 2. Because we had fucked bareback on accident. We’re friends to this day, he’s a cool guy.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms, Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Everyone else was/is doing it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? First time with a stranger, bareback

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The dude was hot, and I got to explore my sexuality

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Condom coming off

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Opened up the door (literally)

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We hooked up a few more times after this

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is fine if it’s consensual and safe. It helped me explore my sexuality and myself.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s cool! And makes me horny.

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