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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? kansas city
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Landlord
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 75
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time Hotwifing

How long ago did this hookup happen? Two weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My wife and I agreed to try the hotwifing lifestyle after about a years-worth of conversation. We posted some ads on a couple of sites and spent a month of winnowing through the applicants. We chose Jess and met him for drinks. I could tell my wife thought he was cute (which is a big deal for this circumstance), and I had prepped him on what were dead-end topics of conversation and what she would like to converse about besides sex. After a couple of drinks, she gave me the signal he would be okay.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it?  We agreed on a time and date at a local hotel. I told her to walk him to his car and nodded to Jess that this was fine with me. I watched from a distance, and when they arrived at his vehicle, they talked for a minute, then he put his hand on the back of her head and began kissing her deeply. I could see her knees get weak, and she leaned against the car. She began rubbing his crotch as he fondled her tits. He said something to her, and she looked over to me and pointed into the car and gave the signal for five minutes. I nodded my head, and they got in the car. She then re-appeared and came over to me with a shame-faced look and said she was sorry it got out of hand. I asked her what happened, and she said she ended up giving him a handjob until he came and then clamped her mouth over his cock and swallowed his load. I laughed and hugged her and said I wasn’t mad.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? My wife was mildly nervous and had a couple of drinks before we got to the hotel, and she changed into a cute nightie. I played with her breasts until Jess arrived. They began necking and french kissing for several minutes and then Jess slowly moved down her body, spending time on her breasts as she loves before eating her out, for probably 15 minutes. She was squirming and eyeing him as he undressed, and she grabbed his erect cock and shoved it into her mouth and began sucking him and moaning. I had prepped Jess with the knowledge that after having her pussy eaten, she likes to be skull-fucked, and he obliged and her muffled squeals got louder. After a couple of minutes of this, he directed her to get on all fours and he slapped her ass five times hard, and she yelped in surprise. Jess put a condom on and slid into her slowly letting her adjust, as she has a small pussy from never having any children. He started slowly, and over time, he built up speed until he was really pounding her as she enjoys. He was about 40 pounds lighter than me but really got some speed and power going for a good period of time. She then mounted him and gave him a breather as she rode him. Moaning all the time, she ground her pussy into his cock. Jess flipped her over and proceeded to slam into her for a little while longer until he came. After a few minutes, he got up, got dressed, and left. I took my clothes off and entered her from behind and told her what a bad little girl she was and that she enjoyed being a slut way too much. That sent her over the edge and her pussy clenched, and she came so hard I thought she passed out. After she came to, I turned her over and fucked her while telling her how much I loved her. I erupted heavily in her, and she screamed again.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She needed more reassurance the next couple of days and was clingy, but I kept her close and said she did fine and our love was stronger than ever. With her new confidence, it has shown in her work and social life.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just my wife.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Seeing my wife’s confidence grow.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having to use a condom.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We have met with Jess two other times, and I joined in once as my wife admitted to fantasizing about having two men at the same time.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Getting rid of religious stigma will go a long ways towards making sex more fun and interesting in general.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is a worthwhile project.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!