What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? England
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Bar work
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First time Lesbian

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last Summer

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was 44, also married, long dusky blonde hair, great shape, and a little taller than me. She became a regular customer at the bar where I worked. I liked her, she was very friendly and we got on well, she would sometimes come in the bar in the afternoons when it was empty, and we would chat for ages

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? was a group of customers going on a night out, pubs and clubs, she asked me along, said I could crash at hers that night as I live out of town, I am not sure to this day if she planned it or if it just happened

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Back at her’s, (her husband was away, so maybe it was planned) we had another drink, and a giggly chat on the sofa, then out of nowhere she asked if she could kiss me, I said ok, I wasn’t prepared for how passionately she was going to kiss me, but it kinda blew me away. We kissed for like ages before we went upstairs. We made love to each other and gave oral, and to be honest it was the most amazing I ever felt and most powerful orgasm ever

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? next morning I was in a kinda shock, but I felt great, she was so sweet, asking me if I was ok with what we had done while stroking my hair. I had strong feelings for her and we saw each other a few more times till we got found out by her husband, was upset how, and when it ended but I guess it was for the best as it was getting intense.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one, I never told anyone

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I had had lesbian thoughts in the past before I got married I always said I wouldn’t turn it down if the situation presented itself

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? a little, sounds silly to say but I am committed to my marriage but can’t honestly say I wouldn’t go with a girl again

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? i think casual sex is fine but try not to hurst anyone, i couldnt do casual sex with a guy as i am married, but if i wasnt then i probably would

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? its a great site, love it

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