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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Malaysia
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Business Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Straight. Slightly Bicurious. Always wanted to experience having sex with another female.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

First Time Lesbian Experience

How long ago did this hookup happen? My 23rd Birthday on 30 Nov

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? W met when I was on the way back home from uni. I always walked through the residential area. I’ve always seen her at her garden watching as students walked by. She waved at me one day and somehow we ended up talking and getting to know each other. She was a lesbian and I was curious so we talked.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Always wanted to experience another female so one day we agreed to meet at her house after classes. It was my birthday and around 3pm. She was a single mother, 42 years old, slightly curvy, fit with 1 child studying overseas.

Began right in her hallway. I went in and she immediately pushed me against the wall and started kissing me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She kissed me and I kissed back. I was so lightweight she managed to carry me to her sofa when she started undressing me. She kissed my lips down to my neck and breasts and then down again to my vagina and just kept licking and going on. It was intense. Definitely a head turner. It was my turn to go down on her but probably a little new to me so I kinda restrained.

Next she grabbed a dildo, stuck it to a strap, and bent me over the table and pressed it deep inside. First time getting fucked by another woman, double my age.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were done around 6 then she brought me out for dinner and we came back around 8 and she asked me if i wanted to have sex some more but i said not really. Guess she wasn’t expecting that answer.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Never shared with anyone. Can’t just yet as no one knows.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I didn’t know what was going through my mind when I thought about it. Didn’t know what to expect. She wasn’t gentle or slow. She just went for my clothing, rough and almost  hardcore sex.

Don’t know if she would share her experience with someone else. She is always eyeing other female students walking pass her house. She could be fucking other students as well for all I know.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I finally managed to experience something i was very afraid of before. It wasn’t what I was expected, but it’s done.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I am very very not comfortable having anal sex. She sort of just went with it without my permission. Also, having another woman going down on you is amazing, but I’m not comfortable being on the giving part. I’ll probably try again with someone my age if the time comes.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. If both sides agree, then its okay.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Just thinking to myself what will she be asking me when I walked past her house again. Will she show face, or ask to have sex again. Definitely not really interested.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Nothing to say

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s my first time visiting. Needed a place to let this out.

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