What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Buisness consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time Paid

How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I answered an ad on Viva Tree. I was out at a client’s and knew I was going to finish early. I’ve never paid for sex before despite having ample opportunity. Her profile said she was 23, Thai, and the pictures looked attractive: a cute face, slim, and boobs appropriate to her small frame.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I text her, having seen her ad and pictures online. She text me her address and asked me to ring the doorbell. I was very nervous as to what to expect and was aware of the potential safety issues (outside of STDs etc.) of doing this. Prior to making contact I Googled her number and saw she’d been advertising for some time which made me feel more comfortable. After some time the door opened but she was standing behind it so she couldn’t be seen, I walked far enough in to see her, but with enough room to make a swift exit if needed. I came in, took my shoes off and she showed me upstairs with some small talk about the weather. Before anything started I passed her the agreed amount for 30 minutes to save her from asking, and she tried to get me to extend for an hour but I declined. It wasn’t so much the money, but for a first time that I was nervous about – an hour of time was a big commitment!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got into her room and I undressed and got on the bed, she’d placed a fresh towel for me to lay on, and she undressed. Her body was stunning, as expected – her boobs were good enough almost to look fake but were natural and her pussy had some neatly trimmed hair around. She had a tattoo across her stomach, which isn’t something I am into, but it wasn’t the end of the world.

She offered oral without a condom, but being in a relationship I refused so she placed a condom on me (I was soft at this point) and gave me oral. The oral was some of the best I’ve ever had, but I wasn’t getting hugely turned on, and my dick was barely hard compared to normal. When it was sufficiently hard, she moved over for her to fuck me.

Her pussy was very wet, she had clearly used a lot of lubricant, and having not had sex with a condom for some years, that with the lubricant meant that there was very little feeling. She was moaning a lot during sex; whilst I’d love to believe it was the best in her life, the amount and the volume of noise with only a semi erect dick was a massive distraction. The lack of feeling combined with the nerves and the total lack of connection meant I lost my erection within about 5 minutes. After this we swapped and she got me hard and made me cum with a blowjob.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After I came, she removed the condom to dispose of it, and cleaned me up; she also offered me use of her shower which I declined. We made some more small talk while we dressed, and shortly after I left.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. It’s something I’ve always thought about. I’ve done it now, I don’t feel it’s a story I have any great passion to tell – there isn’t anything amazing that happened, nor was it negative.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It ticked a box off of the list, cleared my curiosity and added a bit of excitement to my day.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I feel indifferent to the experience. I don’t know what I was expecting but there was nothing particularly positive about the physical experience, nor was anything negative.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’ve had one-night stands where I’ve met someone in a bar and gone back. I didn’t think much about any “connection” other than having sex. This has made me realize that a mutual attraction actually holds a connection which makes physical intimacy more comfortable, relaxing, and enjoyable. I can’t say I’d never use one again, but if I was looking for casual sex, it would be by going out and finding it, rather than just paying.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think as long as there is consent, and people are mindful of their own morals and their life choices then it’s fine. If people are having it to hide an underlying emotional issue then there should be additional support for this available.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s an interesting concept to learn other people’s views and thoughts on a subject that is generally a taboo to discuss, or is often liable to exaggeration.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!