What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? French/Lebanese
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Toronto
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? sexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Over 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1-2
First Time Seducing Another Woman
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1-2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? “Alex” was a cute Korean waitress I met during a period where I was being more assertive with women. I had sort of fallen into having sex with women in the past but at this point I was embracing my lust for women and trying to put myself out there when I met a girl I knew I liked. Alex was a girl like that. She worked at a sushi restaurant near the office where I worked, and the second I saw her I was thinking about what it would be like to sleep with her. She was surprisingly curvy and had a really sexy way of looking at you as if she was sizing you up. I started going to her restaurant for lunch many times a week, and she and I became sort of friends. She would always smile when she saw me and make sure she served me, and I would always make flirty eyes with her and try to make it obvious enough that I was checking her out. Eventually, I was approaching her restaurant just as she was leaving, and I asked her out for drinks. She looked surprised but seemed to like the idea, and gave me her number. I put my hand on her arm and gave her the “fuck me” eyes before she walked away, and she smiled. I wanted to make sure she knew I wanted her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After texting for a couple of days we wound up at a bar that I later learned was close to her apartment. She came in cutely made up and wearing a tight, sexy skirt; and as soon as I saw the way she was dressed I knew she understood what this was, and better than that, I knew I was probably going to end up fucking her. I almost died. We talked over drinks for about an hour, and she kept saying how adventurous she was, like 3-4 times. I eventually asked her what she meant, and (I remember this very clearly) she said she wouldn’t be there if she wasn’t adventurous. After an awkward silence where we were both giggling, I asked her if we were done there and she nodded. (This is when I learned how close her apartment was). We walked to her place together, kind of awkwardly silent the whole time, but I made sure to look her over so that she would notice me doing it, and she did, and she obviously liked it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Only minutes after getting inside her apartment we were making out on her couch. She was so much more into it than I expected, she kissed me so aggressively with little bites, and she had her hand on my ass right away. Her clothes were off pretty quickly and I was sucking on her tits, feeling her pussy above her underwear. It was already very wet. I started to finger her clit and she made these little quiet moans between kisses that really drove me crazy. She invited me to her bedroom and asked me why I wasn’t naked, and then watched me while I took off my clothes in front of her (watching her take in my body really turned me on). We got into her bed and made out while I fingered her and she seemed to enjoy holding my tits. I slid down and started licking her pussy and she came right away. I thought she would be hesitant to kiss me or keep going now that she’d come but she was so into it at this point she pulled me into her and started kissing me, and it really made me crazy, that she didn’t care I had just licked her wet pussy. She started playing with my pussy, at first a little hesitant, but when she saw I liked it she got more aggressive until she was fingering me pretty hard and I came. We kissed a bit more and then laid there together.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked and she told me that she had hooked up with a couple girls before and she always had a crush on me. We cuddled for a couple hours and I left, but she spent that weekend at my place, and we had sex a few more times after that until she told me she had a boyfriend (of course). We still talk on FB sometimes about what a great time we had. I’d like to fuck her again and I think I probably will.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Future partners. Everyone thinks it’s a really sexy story.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It’s nice not knowing if someone is into you and then finding out they’re REALLY into you.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I’ve been more active in pursuing women I want to sleep with.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Just that if I hadn’t asked her out it would never have happened. Take initiative!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love sex. I love being with lots of people. To me, it’s more normal than being with one person.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love re-living my old experiences.
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