What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 17
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I describe myself as queer, I don’t have limits on attraction and don’t like the stigma of a label
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First time sex with a girl

How long ago did this hookup happen? Two nights ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew her really well when we finally hooked up, she is half Cuban and has incredible skin and an incredible body. We met at a friends birthday party last summer. We were very close with each other when we hooked up

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? In my parked car, we had been making out before and we both had talked about it beforehand and knew it was going to happen. I think I instigated it but I’m not sure

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We fingered each other and it felt incredible, to be frank, I gave much more than I got, but she was a great lover and it kind of just stopped and we cuddled for awhile.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, we were laying naked in the car and she told me all about this guy that she’s getting serious with and how he actually cares about her and not her body and how she has never had that. It truly broke my heart because that’s what I tried to give to her.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few of my friends, they were happy for me

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was my first time with a girl and one that I cared about immensely

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I caught feelings for her because of it and she is getting into a relationship

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes I have decided that I prefer women

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think that if people want to have sex they should

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s pretty cool man

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