What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 57
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Austin
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Medical
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Swinger with my wife.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

First Time Sex With Another Man

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I responded to a Craigslist ad from a couple wanting a male. They set up a kik group chat with me and sent incredible pictures of a beautiful woman. She relayed her fantasy of walking in on her husband sucking another man’s dick or getting fucked and then she would join in. I agreed to host and they would come to the house together and she would wait in the car.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The husband showed up and said his wife was running behind. While we were there, his wife sent a text saying to get started because she was coming through the neighborhood gate. We went into the bedroom and left the front door unlocked.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We both stripped, he was a handsome Hispanic man in his early 40s with short, thick, uncircumcised cock. He started sucking me and I did get hard. I had taken Cialis and he then said his wife would go nuts if I fucked his ass. So I got behind him and he took me in with no trouble. Then he wanted me to get on my back, so I did and he mounted my sliding my cock into his ass again. It didn’t take him long, maybe 3 minutes before he came on my stomach. At this point, it was obvious that the wife was not coming and the chicanery bothered me. I might have enjoyed fucking him if I hadn’t felt so duped. I didn’t want to ever see that guy again. He explained he had controlled both kik accounts and that he sent the message from “her” from his own phone. I erased his contacts and told him to get the fuck out.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I would easily fuck another man in the right circumstance. Fucking his ass actually felt good and better than anal with my wife.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Absolutely no one. My wife knew I was meeting a couple but I told her that they never showed up.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I was catfished and I hate being a chump.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I liked making a man cum with my dick in his asshole.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Being so naive that I didn’t see this coming.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No other than I might be open to sex with a man but I haven’t fantasized or masturbated about this since it happened. However, writing this out makes me realize I am more open to sex with a man than I thought before.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nothing

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is a normal human behavior and like anything, it can be good and bad.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it and think it is cathartic for myself and others.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!