What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 6
My First Time as a Sex Worker
How long ago did this hookup happen? last weekend
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Clemens is a 43 year old married man with two children. He is of average height an size, bald, glasses, etc. Really nothing special about him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Last friday morning I realized that I had made no plans for the weekend and that my flatmates would not be at home. I would have the flat for myself. The idea of casual sex came to mind. I don t have a boyfriend at the moment and am quite content with that. It gives me more time and freedom which I enjoy at present.
Now I am not the kind of person who loves going to clubs and bars in order to get picked up. I just don t enjoy that kind of evening activity too much, especially not by myself. So what should I do to find a sex partner real quick?
I turned to that adult dating app that I had been using a while ago to get in touch with that couple I had a threesome with. (see my other story) I had not used it since then and just occasionally checked it for fun.
I checked it again and of course there were heaps of men who wanted to meet me. I scrolled to the messages. Lots of dick pics, ugly guys, boring guys, dirty messages, a lot of bullshit. Clemens message stood out. He was offering me 200 Euros to have sex with him! That hit me like a brick. I checked his message and his pictures. So he had been married for 15 years and had not have sex with anyone but his wife in all that time. He desperately wanted to change about that. I checked the pics he had send me (no dick!) and thought that he looked quite average and not disgusting. His way of writing made a good impression on me. I don t quite understand why he would not simply approach a professional sex worker but instead chose me. But I have read such offers before on this app and have always just discarded them. This was also the highest amount anyone had offered me. Besides, all guys with such offers seemed to be horrible people.
I have had sex with older guys in the past and know it is not a problem for me (again, check my other stories.) I was both very tempted and very nervous. The temptation won. I send him a message that we could meet tonight. I was half hoping that he would not be able to meet me that quickly. I went off to uni.
Around midday I checked the app and I did have a reply. My heart stood almost still. Clemens had replied confirming that he could meet me tonight and added his telephone number. I messaged back that I would call him if he would agree to meet me at a cafe so I would have a last chance to opt out. I gave him the address of the place where i first met with that couple back then.
It took me a bit to make myself call Clemens. I was very nervous about this. He replied, confirming everything. His voice sounded nice.
All day I could not concentrate well, my mind going back to what I had gotten myself into.
My heart was pounding as I sat in the cafe waiting for Clemens. When he arrived, we chatted only briefly. He seemed to be a bit nervous himself and didn t really know what to say. He seemed to be quite nice to me so I just told him that I agreed on doing it. Sex it would be. Clemens gave me the money straight away.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I took Clemens into my flat and straight to my room, where i immediately stripped naked. Stripping naked in front of a man is a big turn on for me, and it kinda worked again, but this situation was also quite awkward. Clemens just sat on my bed watching me strip. I sat next to him, and we both did not really know what to do, i guess. Clemens started touching me, and I let him, He started kissing my nipples for a bit. Clemens was touching and kissing my boobs, my shoulders, my arms, my belly and my vagina, but he did not get undressed himself. I finally touched him and asked him softly whether he wanted me to give him a blowjob. He said yes but did nothing. I reached for his pants and opened them. He took them off but he was not even erect! I guess he must have been very nervous, indeed.
I made myself comfortable in front of him, he was sitting on the bed, leaning back. I licked and sucked his penis for a bit, but that did not work to get it erect. I nibbling on his balls while wanking Clemens so that he would get erect. That worked and I started pleasuring him. He moaned a bit and told me how much he loved it. His wife would not give him blowjobs. So I licked his penis for a bit longer. Clemens then asked me whether I would also give him a tit- and a footjob. I agreed and we tried the tittiefuck first. It did not work out that well because my breasts are rather small. Then we did the footjob, and that did not work out too well either, I guess this time we should have used lubrication. Clemens did not even suggest that but was happy to stop. He asked me whether he could kiss my feet. I agreed and he kissed my soles and put some toes into his mouth. It tickled a bit but did nothing to me. I did not get very aroused from this encounter. Clemens seemed to look for other things he had obviously never done before and wanted to try out. So he asked me whether it was ok if he could lick my arsehole. I really like it when men do that so I happily hopped on the bed presenting him my behind. Clemens commenced to lick me extensively. He also licked my vagina and fingered me for a bit, which helped me get wet. For the first time I started to enjoy this encounter. I was just facing the wall, getting paid for being pleasured. I felt Clemens penis rubbing against my arse. He was moaning a bit, and he was obviously wanking. He then told me how great this was.
He asked whether he should put the condom on because he was ready for intercourse. I gave him my ok and turned around. Clemens said no, I should just stay where i was, he would prefer doggystyle because he really liked my arse. I felt Clemens behind me, again rubbing his penis against my arse. Then he slowly and very carefully shoved it into my vagina. He started fucking and I enjoyed that part. I didn’nnot really have to do anything this way, doggystyle. It could have been anyone fucking me, really. Unfortunately, Clemens came before I had an orgasm.
After that, we both sat on the bed saying and doing nothing. I thought about whether I should let him stay here and have another go so I would get my orgasm. But then I did not really want to have him hanging around for much longer. i finally decided that it was up to him. He had given me a fair amount of cash, so if he wanted to have me again I would let him.
I was pretty happy when i saw that Clemens just started to get dressed. He thanked me and walked out of the door within about two minutes. When he was gone, I got dressed, walked to the next bottle shop and got real drunk by myself that evening.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I just got drunk and kept the money. I have not even looked at this app since.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…), Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? Doing it for money was not really what I had in mind. The communication between us was very awkward.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? the money, to be honest. Getting licked and fucked doggystyle, which is pretty anonymous.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? the nervousness beforehand and the dirty feeling afterwards.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I wonder whether i could make lots of money this way. I am having casual sex anyway. But this experience does not really make me want to do it again.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I will still have casual sex. Maybe I will wait a bit until next time.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Works a bit as a confession box for people like me. I enjoy that aspect. Writing about these things helps me reflect.
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