What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 50
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Professional
What’s your current relationship status?
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time Swingers Club.

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? 1. My friend F. Woman, 40, highly educated professional, white, tiny, long hair, bright blue eyes, tiny ass. We have had a sexual relationship for over a year. We are both too busy and don’t really want a partner or girlfriend / boyfriend situation or expectations. None of those categories above quite fit us. Our sexual chemistry is amazing.

Never met the next three, only had about four words with each of them.
2. Asian woman, maybe 30, moderately tall and plump.
3. Asian man, maybe 30, also moderately tall and plump.
4. Mediterranean man, maybe 55 or 60, strong, dark skinned, short.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was a long time coming. F had asked me what I wanted for my birthday. I told her I wanted to fuck her in a room full of people. It took her months to line up an overnight babysitter on the same night as the monthly first timers night at a local swingers club.

We dressed like we were going to the opera. She was in a bright black knee length dress with bright shiny bits all over it and a matching black choker. I had good black jeans, shirt, velvet coat, fancy shoes.

We went to a super fancy restaurant. Ate a small amount of superb food and sake. We talked about it over dinner and the walk to the club. We were both unsure whether fantasy would be like reality. We thought we’d probably like to just fuck each other in public, and that more would probably be too much, but we were open to seeing what would happen. We decided there were no real rules other than the obvious don’t abandon each other, if one wants to go then both do, even if it’s terrible or all we do is have a look then it’s a good excursion and we will laugh about it later, etc. I asked her to help me to avoid orgasming hard too early and being done. We didn’t know what would happen.

I stopped at a bar nearby to use the toilet and she waited. She laughed as we left. She’d never been hit on so fast in her life. She must have looked ready to be fucked.

We rang the doorbell and were buzzed in. Up to the first floor landing and heard the ground rules got a tour. I’d thought we were late but the place was still pretty empty, with nobody in the play areas and the nightclub area still pretty empty.

We walked around the play areas, looking at the peepholes, the dimly lit spaces, the unused sex swing, etc.

We went upstairs to have a drink and do some people watching. My main anxiety had been around my body, but it needn’t have been. The full range of body shapes were there. We’re both fitter than most people. We laughed at the crappy décor. There was a guy from work at the bar and we laughed about not knowing each other. He asked if I wanted to bring F over and talk to his girlfriend. I sort of didn’t.

There was a stripper near midnight. Wildly hot. We both hoped she’d be downstairs but she packed up and left. I kissed F a bit and felt her up. The place didn’t really feel full enough. I think I’d expected loud music, a dark crush of bodies, eye contact, heat with hot strangers. It felt a bit sterile.

We went down to the play area, got changed into sarongs and wandered through. There was a bodybuilder fucking a massively fat lady in the sex swing really hard. She was loud and there was nobody else watching. Weird. We went back upstairs and started to have fun mucking around playing pool. We staked a blowjob in front of everybody on the game, but nobody was watching.

An older French guy started flirting but it was too contrived, and we let it go. She lost and we went back downstairs. there were a few more people down there now. A threesome at one end and a twosome at the other end of one room. A few voyeurs like us. Not enough going on.

We sat on the couch in the corridor to wait for something to happen. Then, as it turned out, we made something happen.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I gave up and took her into the play area closest to the entrance, the one everyone has to walk past as they enter the floor. It was empty. There were four double mattresses with red sheets and the sex swing up the other end. A slot like window just below eye level all around so anyone outside could bend down a little and have a perve. I figured we would just fuck in this weird place and it’d be fun and we’d go home to bed.

F and I go from 0 to 100 in two seconds under almost any circumstances. She’s really small and I’m big and strong. Sometimes she loves feeling pushed around, overpowered, almost forced. She says it’s hot to be so desired. I held her head down hard on my cock. It went on for a while then I started fucking her hard. I didn’t know if anyone was watching, I hoped they were but I didn’t care.

My dick went soft which happens occasionally and I started blowing her. I’ve had consistently high ratings for my blowjobs. Something comes over me. I have a subservient side and I totally get off on my partner’s pleasure. I looked up and there was a couple crawling toward her from each side. They started kissing her and licking her breasts. I was a bit taken aback. They were younger than us, fatter, less fit, not hot, and we’d never spoken to them. But F seemed into it, writhing around grinding her clitoris harder into my jaw and fingers. Then I thought she had the guys big dark cock in her mouth but I wasn’t sure. I was a bit surprised at how things were going. I’d expected us to be more bounded. But I didn’t mind.

The girl in the couple lay down next to F and the guy moved down F’s body. He got down near me. “Hey.. Hey.. do you want to switch?” He said. It was weird and didn’t feel quite right. I hesitated. But F had been into it enough that I had thought she’d been sucking his dick so I thought what the heck and started blowing his girlfriend as he blew F.

His girlfriend came pretty fast. I kept going for a bit then came up. She kissed me a bit and was up for much more. She was pretty chunky and I wasn’t really into her.

I went back to F and made out with her. She’d definitely been sucking the guys dick. So skanky and dirty. I lay on my back and she went down on all fours, concentrating hard on blowing me. Another guy appeared behind her, touching her. Older, but fit. He started pushing against her. His wife called out, “ask the partner, you have to ask the partner first.” He asked me if it was OK. I was confused. He wanted to fuck F not me. I asked her it if was OK. I saw a flash of fear, I presumed of what I would think. Then her blue eyes lit up and she panted “yeah”. I said “yeah”, and he pushed up hard into her. She was lost in the moment with a cock in each end, writhing around, flushed, filthy, hot.

It was getting too much for me and I could tell I was going to come so hard I would feel like I never needed to have sex again so I pulled out and she lay on me while a stranger fucked her from behind. I avoided seeing his face, only catching glimpses in the dark. She started working my dick with her hand and she wouldn’t let go. I was building up again. The dirty heat of the whole situation possessed me. I asked her if he was wearing a condom. “Yeah, I saw, I checked.” Those eyes again. I hissed fuck him, finish him, make him come. I stuck my dick in her mouth and she went straight up three more levels, inhaling me while pushing back and pumping the stranger behind her for come. She hammered away at my cock, gagging for a filthy load of come from me as her cunt milked at the stranger behind. I came hard, streaming rivers down her throat. But they weren’t finished.

I lay there spent, holding her with her face high on my abdomen, caressing her and keeping sweat matted hair out of her eyes with her ass in the air pushing back hard onto the stranger’s penis. He lost it and started fucking her in a frenzy and she just held herself firm against the onslaught, submitting to a total stranger. He blew his load, pulled the condom out and collapsed, spent.

F and I together blissed out. She moved up toward me and I held her close, my arms around her, my legs as well. The room faded out for minutes and it was just the two of us in our own little world. We came to and the four others were still there, and a bunch of others at the windows.

The guy’s wife was just lying on her side watching. She was in her clothes. She looked at F and said, “thank you, you’re great.” The girl in the other couple said, “you’re awesome.”

We didn’t really feel like interacting with anyone. We beat a retreat. The older couple did too. We didn’t feel like getting changed with them, so we just sat around on a lounge for a while. We went and got changed, and before we knew it we were walking toward my home in familiar streets, talking and laughing. We saw a poster for a concert and discussed going. A hobo asked us for money. We were relaxed and happy. It might have been a normal evening out. I was blissed out. She still needed to come. An orgasm at my place for her and we were asleep.

I woke in the night pumping come into her mouth. We woke in the morning fucking. We had avocado on toast and talked about the night before. With three hours sleep under our belts she went to pick up her kids and go home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I talked about it with F the next morning. We both thought it was surprisingly great. It was confronting how unplanned it seemed, like anything could have happened, but it’s part of the hotness and anonymity. It will hopefully be a lot better next time with better planning, and going to a better party or on a night when there are likely to be more people.

We talked about how weird the consent was. We talked about how we probably would have just said no to the first couple if that happened again. They didn’t really ask to join in, and the way it was done, I thought that F was into them and she was surprised that I was. But then again, maybe it was them that wound us up enough to reach such a high level with the other random guy. I don’t know.

The other dude had asked F before asking me it turned out.

F had missed the fact that his wife was there watching and was thankful. It seemed like she had health issues or was past it and this was their way of dealing with it. It kind of made us happy to think that it was a mutually beneficial thing for them as well.

I’ve had a vasectomy and have not thought about pregnancy risk for a decade, but F said that she was ovulating (perhaps that’s why it happened..) and not on oral contraceptives because she’s been only fucking me. He used a condom but its a little bit of a worry.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? F. So relaxed and chilled out about it. It was great.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Exploring a long held fantasy, finding out it was both weird and awesome and that I’d do it again.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Non zero pregnancy risk for F.
Compulsive masturbation and wanting to have sex all the time for the last 72 hours.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. It made me feel clearer in my head what a great thing it is.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I should have had a lot more of it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great. The website is clunky and I wonder if some of the stories a real, but maybe people will wonder if this one is real.

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