by Chloe

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Alabama
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: It’s complicated
Religious affiliation: Unitarian Universalist
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time To Finish

How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? J is tall and thick, with big strong hands, blond hair and freckles.  I had a fling with him a year ago, which fell apart because our emotions were getting mixed up, and there was a lot of tension over how far we would go.  I recently heard he was single again and invited him over- unsure how far I wanted to go but relishing fond memories of our hookups before, and his excitement over giving me oral.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I invited him over to “watch a movie.”  We both knew what that meant.  I was snuggled up with my head on his chest, running my hands over his body and when he turned to kiss me I knew he was excited.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? J was a great lover.  He was considerate and intense.  He teased me endlessly, delighting in my breasts, and then brought me to a climax with his hand -the first guy I’ve met who’s done this.  It got a little rough.  Then we decided to have sex, fell asleep, and then had sex again.  And again.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had two orgasms over the course of the night.  He had one.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t have a condom.  We considered going out to get one, but discussed partner history and STD history and decided the risk was relatively low.  He pulled out before finishing.  I also took plan B.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I had been thinking about him and wondering how good he was for a while.  I thought it would be fun.  I’m also secretly hoping an actual relationship will develop but that seems unlikely.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I’m not sure how I feel.  During and right after sex, I wanted to fall in love and be exclusive.  Now, I don’t know whether I’d want a relationship with him.  I’m not sure we’ll have sex again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommate and friend.  They asked if I was ok and whether it was good, and were supportive of my decision.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Maybe?  I don’t want to be considered easy or fall into a destructive pattern of casual sex.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was the orgasm and the tender respect he showed me.  The worst thing is that he doesn’t show much emotion so I couldn’t see if he was enjoying himself or not.  This hookup has left me wanting more and wanting to learn how to minimize the guilt and the emotional messiness.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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