Race/ethnicity: Mixed Asian
Current location: San Francisco
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: In A Relationship
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Gay/Lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
First Time With a Special Someone
How long ago did this hookup happen? Five months ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? More like lovers
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was utterly stunning. I have no other words to describe her beauty. I was a student at Berkeley and was trying to flirt with a girl I’d had feelings for, but she had turned me down and I was pretty heartbroken. I’m somewhat a romantic person and I like serious relationships. This girl I hooked up with was there when the girl I liked turned me down. She was a rep from other universities who frequently came to give us a talk. Since she was a psychologist, she calmed me down and comforted me a bit. When she was done talking, she joined a group of the other reps and were ready to go. I had to admit I felt something… lust, maybe. She was so sexy and attractive, and with her gorgeous dark brown eyes, long straight dark brown hair and soft, seductive voice, I would’ve done anything to be with her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She came to give us talks frequently, and one time I was staying at the lecture hall packing stuffs up when she walked toward me and asked how I was feeling. I told her I was fine, and she asked if I wanted to have dinner with her and a bunch of friends. I said yes and and we headed to a fancy dinner place at Grant Ave.. Her friends, whom were both black girls, left pretty quickly and we were alone. At that time I was so strongly attracted to her I was tempted to kiss her. The way she looked at me… it was lovely. She stared at me lovingly and smiled that sexy smile of hers. Then she asked if I still had feelings for the girl I liked, and I said not anymore. She whispered “just what I want” and came around the back of my chair and pulled me up. The place was really quiet and there weren’t many people around, and we started kissing on the spot, gently and passionately. She was a good kisser. We paid the bills and I followed her back to her apartment at Mission St..
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She had soft sexy music playing and her apartment was very dimly lit, so it made kissing more comfortable and less awkward. She started playing with my hair on the couch and I kissed her slowly. Soon we were very turned on and our clothes came off. She had a nice body image, but mine wasn’t that presentable. I was average but I wasn’t contented so it made sex uncomfortable for me. We were really gentle the whole time, kissing, sucking, licking and fucking until we both had orgasms. I had it twice and she had it once. It was my first time and I was surprised at how well I could do it for a first timer. She wasn’t very experienced either, but better than I was. We spent the night cuddling and had sex again early in the morning the next day. It was pleasurable.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, I had it twice while she had it once.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t, basically because we were both girls and I never really thought about it at that time. Plus, she wasn’t the type that would hook up on everyone, everywhere, so I wasn’t worried.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was very attracted to her and she was feeling the same.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No, nothing of that sort were involved.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We texted and called each other, and had sex again two days later. Then we came to the conclusion that we both had strong feelings for each other, so she asked me out and I accepted. We’d planned a vacation to Europe for Christmas and I’m proud to say that I’m now happily in love with this girl.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We didn’t tell anyone. It was like our little secret, even until now.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Both.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret it at all. I’d enjoyed myself and I have found myself the love of my life.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about this is everything that was given to me. I had known myself better, got myself a lovely girlfriend and I couldn’t asked for more. The worst? I’m now madly in love with her and I don’t have time for anything else, that is.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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