by Irene

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Washington, DC
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time With Tinder Date

How long ago did this hookup happen? Three weeks ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I started chatting with John (not his real name :D) on Tinder just before Christmas. We hit it off and talked for a while. He was on the other side of the country for the holidays so we met just after New Years for a drink. Afterwards I didn’t really think I would see him again. But he invited me on a second date two weeks later in a very cool lounge downtown. We had a few drinks and talked, then we went to a patio because he wanted to have a smoke. He kissed me and I really liked it. I decided I was attracted to him after all.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? John invited me to dinner in a Mexican restaurant that was 5 minutes away from his house. I think we both knew he was going to ask  me to come to his place after. We had delicious food and talked a lot, and somehow the conversation got on the topic of losing virginity. I told him about a friend of mine, then he asked who was my first. I said I hadn’t had sex yet. I’m not sure he really believed me at first, but he definitely took it as a challenge.

After dinner he asked if I wanted to have a glass of wine at his place. I said, yes. When we got to his apartment we sat on the couch and watched a bit of Seinfeld ( I’d never seen it before and it’s his favorite show). He started kissing me at the first commercial break.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were kissing on the couch and he ended up on top of me. He was very exited and caressed me all over. He tried to take off my shirt but couldn’t quite manage so I took it off and my bra too. We continued making out, but his roommate was home, so he asked if I wanted to go to his room.

When we were there he tried to tidy up a little, his bed was a mess. We lay down and started kissing again, he slid his hand down my pants, but his movements were a little hectic so I wasn’t too turned on. John asked if anyone had ever gone down on me before… I said, no. He took my pants and panties off and started kissing my neck (huge turn-on for me) then went down kissing to my nipples and down my stomach. He  kissed me and licked me and put his finger inside me, but again he was going so fast it made me less turned on.

That went on for a while, then he came back up and we kissed, he took his pants off and led my hand to his penis so I could caress him. He put my feet over his shoulders and tried to enter me. It was a little hard at first, and when he finally did it was painful (but no blood!). That position wasn’t really comfortable for me, so I put my legs down and around his lower back. By then it wasn’t painful, so I grabbed his ass to pull him in deeper. He asked me to turn around and entered me from behind. That position was the most pleasurable for both of us, he grabbed my ass (another huge turn-on) and scratched my back as he came, which made me come.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? We both did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was really frustrated and ready to have sex already. He was there and very available. I went for it.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A glass of Margarita and less than a glass of wine for both of us.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards he complimented me on how relaxed and into it I was, he said he couldn’t usually come with a condom on. He lit a smoke and we talked in bed for a while. Then he called me an Uber and I went home.

I felt very satisfied that I finally had sex, but not particularly satisfied with the foreplay leading up to it. I don’t feel like repeating it with him, but I very much want to have more sex with different men and gain different experiences. We haven’t talked since so I think the feelings are mutual.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends. They knew how frustrated I was before so they were very happy for me. Maybe a little surprised how casual I was about it.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was finally having sex, lol… also I get really really turned on by kisses on the neck and inner thighs, the back scratching was amazingly hot.

Worst thing- I always thought it was a joke that some men have trouble finding the clitoris, apparently it’s true. His finger and tongue didn’t know what they were doing at all. Kind of disappointing…

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Before I had this hookup I thought I wasn’t the type of person who could have casual sex. I realized how easy it is for me and I look forward to new experiences.

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