What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Saint Paul, MN
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Groomer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Wiccan / Pagan
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Submissive
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 22
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
First Time Younger
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at the hotel club in Vegas, he was 19 but had his brother’s ID to get into the club with his dad. They were from Australia and he was a good looking guy with a killer accent.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started talking taking in the skyline, shared a few drinks and made out lightly while still in the club. Beforehand my partner had given me permission to hook up if wanted while I was away. He asked to see my room and I wanted to try someone younger than me, which had never happened before.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to my room and I quickly got undressed. We started by giving oral to each other, I cum easily so after getting off a couple of times he got a condom and we started fucking. He was pretty good but I think I surprised him with my vocals and wanton nature. When he was close, he pulled out and came over my back per my request. After recovering a little, I offered water and complimented him before he left to get back to his dad. I took a shower and went to bed.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was glad that I experienced it but I don’t think my tastes have changed from older men. I feel glad that I brought joy to his trip as he did mine.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Trying something new, both younger men and an Australian.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Little connection beyond lust
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope just confirmed my normal practices
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? 9 year age gap
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s fine for many people in different parts of their life. I had a lot of casual sex when I was 19, but found I like to have a main partner with others added in for fun.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great idea (got from Manwhore podcast)
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