What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? United Kingdom
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
First Tinder Date/ First Date Ever!
How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday afternoon
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? So I matched him on Tinder early this week. He’s kinda taller than me, so 5’11 let’s say. Was Asian/Arabic, not sure about his actual race. Was super hot not what I expected he looked better in in real life than in his pics. Had the nicest brown eyes, fresh trim, beard (but not super big) He wore a Canada Goose coat and jeans and jumper. Originally I asked him to come to mine on Friday, but we didn’t talk after that so I thought lol another failed date.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Saturday morning comes round and I see he’s messaged me saying he’s been busy last couple days can we still meet gives me his number. So text him a bit and next thing you know he’s got my address and is on his way. I was freaking out. So he arrives we sit and chat about school music TV etc. Then he takes my glasses I ask why he says cause then I couldn’t do this and kissed me. At this point, I’m like shit cause I’ve only kissed someone once and I was drunk so don’t remember how it was.
So we made out a bit and I ended up straddling him on the sofa. Hands are moving all over the place and he’s kissing me and shit so yeh there’s that. After a while, we stop and then we’re standing up and then he kinda picks me up and I wrap my legs around him and then he carries me upstairs.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So we get upstairs in my room and he lays on top of me were kissing and stuff and he kinda starts “dry humping” I guess like I had my legs around him and he was in too so. We’re still kissing (which he was bad at I think cause I could feel his teeth and he kept sucking my lip) anyway his hands start moving down and starting doing ya know. Then he takes my leggings and underwear off and starts proper going for it, we’re still kissing. Don’t know if I came not sure maybe was my first time so felt odd but not super painful like I thought. Um and then I think he stood up and took his top off and next thing I was on top of him but his jeans were still on so I took them off (now know that a £1 coin fell out) and then took off his boxers too. So I start giving him a handjob and kissing him at the same while he was fingering me I think (a lot was happening all at once) and then he said he was gonna cum and I didn’t wanna mess up my sheets or really see it come out so I starting sucking him off at that point and then he came in my mouth. He then asked me a question but I still had his cum in my mouth so I had to swallow it (didn’t taste of anything). Then got dressed went out so smoke a zoot, came back in made out on the sofa again to either Fall Apart or Don’t be a Fool (yes he likes Shawn Mendes) and he left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After it all I was a bit shocked with myself cause didn’t think I would actually go through with it. But it’s nice now to know that it’s over with and next time let’s say when I’m actually gonna have sex I won’t feel a type of way (the wrong type of way)
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Well friends knew he was coming round only a few know we got together. They were shocked but in a good way, I guess proud and Just happy I was okay
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was learning curve I guess. Like an enlightenment and I feel kinda more confident I guess like ‘i really just did that’
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Um, don’t know. I guess you could say that we didn’t actually have sex cause we probs should have just done (reason we didn’t was cause I was scared that I would get pregnant even if they wore protection didn’t tell him that but told him not having sex)
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Well I feel like I know that I won’t get attached to them after it all (well thinking that’s only if don’t know them so well)
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I never said no but then I never said yeh you can do whatever, it kinda just all happens in the moment and it feels right. He was very understanding that I didn’t wanna have sex which was nice. But if you’re uncomfortable say that don’t just go along with it.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Don’t have anything bad to say about it as long as it’s consensual and safe. Do your thing, have fun, pop that pussy.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a fascinating site has really opened my eyes to a lot of shit.
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