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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Insurance professional
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3

First Tinder Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s Asian, tall, muscular but lean. We had been chatting the day before. The conversation was a bit slow. He’s from another city across the country, and was only here for work. We met up downtown, and then made our way to a bar for a late night dinner and drinks.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Right at the beginning of the conversation, he made his intentions very clear (keeping it casual), and I agreed. I told him that I had never hooked up with anyone before, and he told me that this would be his first hookup in a different city.

When we were at the bar, I found out that he was actually very talkative in person, and he was sweet. We shared a bottle of sake, and we each had a cocktail drink. Towards the end of dinner, I asked if I could come over to his place. He kissed me, and then called a taxi.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? In the taxi ride, he held my hand the whole time, and kissed me a few times. When we were closer to the destination, he let me feel how hard he was in his jeans. I was a little excited for what was about to happen.
When I got to his place, I went to the bathroom to clean up a bit, and took off my skinny jeans. When I came back into the room, we started making out, and he took off my shirt. He went down on me, which I was very surprised about, and then he undressed so that I could give him a blowjob. He asked if we could 69. I told him that I’m kind of self conscious but he didn’t care, and kind of maneuvered me so that I was on top of him. I was able to deepthroat him from that angle and I love the way he moaned! We started off with me on my back, and then switched to doggy style. He was a good lover. I was so wet!

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, he gave me water, and then wanted to watch Westworld with me (I had mentioned earlier that I haven’t seen the newest episode yet). The program didn’t work, so he put on another show, and we cuddled a bit. I found out that he’s very ticklish. He asked me to spend the night (twice!) but I told him that I had to leave because I work the next day. He has my number, so I told him that he could text me if he was still in town and wanted to do this again.

The next morning, I was still happy and very giddy because he was so sweet, and a good lover.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Discussed STI testing history, Plan B / Emergency contraception

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a friend that I was going to meet a new guy from out of town, but did not give her any details. I didn’t tell her that I slept with him.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He’s very strong, a good kisser, and made sure I was ready before we did anything.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I drank a lot, and I started to feel sick. He offered me a lot of water, and asked if I wanted to take a shower, but I declined, and went home instead.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I was afraid that I would get too attached, or that I would feel ashamed of myself for sleeping with a stranger. But we had talked over it and he made sure I was comfortable before doing anything. I had a lot of fun with him.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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