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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? New Zealand
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Business Owner
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Visit to Sex Club with Fuck-Buddy

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a slim, tall, dark brunette. An American with gorgeous green eyes and a full mouth. She was 26 at the time (about 8 years younger than me), staggeringly intelligent, a keen runner with long toned legs. At the time we both had partners – we had met when she advertised looking for a partner for casual sex with her partner’s consent. We bonded very quickly and had great chemistry and, although living in different cities, arranged to meet within weeks. Our first time together was passionate and over the coming weeks/months we grew very close. I had a long term partner but our sex life had slipped into the abyss for some months. I was still emotionally committed to her but missed the physical intimacy. The relationship with my lover grew very deep and remains a profound memory in my life. Eventually we both met several more times without either of our partner’s knowledge – this time being the last before I walked away (with great difficulty).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? From very early on our sexual life was very adventurous, energetic and open. Perhaps given the way we met, our personalities and our craving for physical intimacy the sex was on balance the most intense of my life. I had mooted the idea of going to a sex club a few times and she was game so we agreed to meet up in a different town when my partner was away and she had constructed an alibi. I spied her long smooth legs and her willowy body draped in a white linen dress when I exited the airport and it was all on!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were barely inside our hotel suite (situated conveniently close to the sex club) before we were all over each other. We never had bad sex – I remember skinning her out of her lacy thong and long sessions of oral – deep, sloppy, messy, hungry blowjobs from her and intense, animal licking and fucking with amazing deep kisses – the mineral, salty, earthy taste of her body. We rested, went out for dinner and prepared ourselves for the club. We had teased and tantalized each other with what we would wear for weeks beforehand.

The time came to head out to the club. We were both nervous. I remember we queued with another visiting couple and he complemented her on her calves asking her if she was a runner. Eventually we were inside and were asked to wait until we could get a guided tour. The place was small, a bit shabby but clean. There was a coterie of what looked like regulars who were “larger” people. We sat on the couch whispering and joking to each other in nervous excitement while we waited. Eventually the host was ready and gave us the guided trip – a couple of open bed areas, a sling and St Andrews cross and a grope tent which he entered and invited my lovely companion to reach into. Can still see her subdued blush and impish smile when she got a handful of his cock.

Anyway, he left us alone and we felt our way into the scene. We went into the dark alcove where the sling etc were and she unzipped me and had me sit on a bench seat, then squatted in her high heels and cocktail dress and took me in her mouth working my cock with her always copiously wet mouth. I remember looking over and seeing the couple we had queued with. He was lying on a raised cot and his girl was also working his cock. There was a glitter ball hanging from the roof. I don’t come easily from oral so after a time I moved us on and helped my lover into the sling. I pulled her panties off and raised her dress then sat on a stool and rocked her in the sling, lapping at her pussy. We were close to the other couple at this point and I could feel them hungrily watching me lapping away and her moaning. Can’t remember if she climaxed there.

We moved on to one of the flat bed areas. She blew me again for a while on all fours with her bare ass on display. A guy and girl motioned to me whether they could finger her and I gave them the nod. She then rode me cowgirl for a bit and I think we both came in that position. We had a small crowd of aroused middle-aged spectators watching us fuck and that was quite a turn-on. She was keen to taste another girl and a young group next to us invited us to play. She knelt on the floor and eat out the gal while I licked and sucked the girl’s tits for a bit. I remember the taste of cigarettes on the girl’s tits which was a bit of a turn off.

The group invited us dancing but we weren’t that into them or keen. We moved to the St Andrews cross and I cuffed her face forwards onto the cross and fucked her from behind standing up. I remember we got quite sweaty with this but ultimately tired and beyond it. We cleaned up and scooted back to our pad.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The best sex of the weekend was the next morning. I’d made up a “mixtape” of cute amateur lesbian porn to get us in the mood and we watched a bit of that lying on the settee in our underwear. I was stroking her through her underwear while we watched and we got hot and bothered again. Things progressed into a complete frenzy of fucking – her bent over the arm of the couch and me fucking her like a demented animal doggy style. We were matted with sweat and I was puling out periodically to bury my face in her pussy before continuing. Our orgasms were intense – I really wanted to cum in her mouth so pulled out and shot on her face before she swallowed me.

I think that was our last sex together. We went out for a look around and drove out to the airport and never saw each other again – although our goodbyes were many and not without some drama.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Making new friends, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Strictly between ourselves. Haven’t discussed with anyone.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Every minute we were able to spend together. The variety and intensity of the experience.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it was our last time together.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Very much so. I don’t regret this experience or feel shame in it. It was a true adventure for both of us and will remain a life long memory that always brings a smile!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The experience of the sex club was almost incidental to the experience around it. Its hard to really call it a casual hookup on reflection. Although we probably only hooked-up about four times the relationship was a profound one.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Generally very positive if the participants are consensual. Things become more difficult where there are others involved but I can only see society becoming more permissive of experimentation and multiple partners.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it. A great insight into others experience and hopefully something that helps others feel better about themselves and more understanding of others choices.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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