What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 43
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? France
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Film Maker
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Wiccan / Pagan
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? >400
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Fling Escort Pregnant
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The woman in this story was a high-class escort I met through a screening service while living in Los Angeles. I didn’t know her at all before. Through the screening service, she saw that I was trusted by other escorts. She was very good looking – tall about 178cm (5’10), Caucasian, in her 30s, and could have been a lingerie model. She had very long legs, strawberry blonde hair, an hourglass figure, and very large natural breasts. I’ve been with many nice women, but I would say this one was up there.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I wasn’t sure if she would see me in the beginning as she was so good looking, but then again I wasn’t sure if the pictures she posted were real or if she chose her clients etc. I drove to her house/neighborhood in Los Angeles and she buzzed me into her apartment. When she opened the door, the place smelled of fragrance and candles. It was a very warm reception.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She gave me oral without a condom, and there was a lot of kissing too. I had been to this call girl about 10 times over a period of a month and a half. In the beginning, I would not last very long as she was really good in bed. She would always want me to stay until the hour was up in the beginning even if I finished quickly. She’d chat with me a lot and she loved spiritual things. Once, feeling quite down, I said to her that she didn’t need to be that warm to me just because I was a paying client. She said that it didn’t matter that I was paying or not, that she was next to me in flesh and blood and I didn’t have to think about whether it was a fantasy or not. Then by the third time I was there, I had sex with her a second time when the clock was almost up. By the time we finished the second round of sex, it was 35 minutes over the hour mark. We had sex a third time and I left an hour after the first hour I paid for. The fourth time, I performed a lot of oral sex on her vaginal and anus and she came intensely following which she asked me if I wanted to have sex with her without a condom.
So by this time (the fourth), I stayed over until the morning and had unprotected sex with her 3 times in the evening and one time in the morning whilst only paying for an hour. She liked my spiritual beliefs etc. She would then come over to mine and have sex. She left some toiletries and stuff at mine. I stopped paying for sex. I met her other girlfriends, one of which was an escort as well. She said I was not allowed to have sex with her other escort friend. She said that if I saw other girls I had to use a condom because we were fucking without one. I basically ejaculated into every one of her orifices – mouth, vagina, and anus, over and over again during the course of a month and a half. She would stop escorting for a week at a time because she thought we were going to get married. We got into an argument once and she said that I could continue to see her and made me pay once during this time. Then again we’d have sex for free. Until one day she said she was pregnant. She had missed her period, but the test came up negative for pregnancy. A few days later she tested again and tested pregnant. She asked me to go with her to the clinic to get an abortion pill. She took it and I was filming that evening, but the pill didn’t work. She went to get a real abortion about a week later. I was working a lot and we continued fucking, but now with a condom.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went away for two months and she asked to see me. I saw her and she was thicker and heavier compared to the very thin version of herself before, but she was still super sexy. She kind of looked like Jill Kelly (the porn star) in her later years vs the thin version of her when she was young. She said the pregnancy and then abortion messed up her hormones that made her breasts larger. She was really good in bed after putting on some weight. I didn’t see her for a while after that last time in case she wanted something from me I couldn’t give her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody. I called a good friend who helped with advice about the abortion.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? The pregnancy.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I had never had such intense sex before with an escort who basically was a girlfriend. To go from paid sex to her talking about marriage. I felt accepted when I was desired by this beautiful woman.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I felt smothered.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I have had relationships with other escorts and strippers since. I’m seeing an escort in Europe now, but I see other women as well. I learned about the vulnerability of people behind their facades. This girl was a super high-end call girl who I thought was out of my reach and yet she was just human and fell for me. It made me realize that I was a desirable person too. She remains a friend today.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I think encounters with sex workers can be extremely meaningful.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Not sure.
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