by James

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA Washington DC
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Builder of Rocketships
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Bahai
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Complentary
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Human
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Flower of the city

How long ago did this hookup happen? 11 yrs ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was all smiles. She was 5 feet 3 and had blonde hair. I meet here on the metro into DC. I felt a deep connection to hypergamy in action didn’t know about it than but I do now.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It started with her smile. She disarmed me and got to me in a way I’ve been baffled by. I felt a need to learn abou the opposite sex. The planning involved was an exchange by text messages. We both did but her more than me in instigating it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I took her to eat. She told me stories of her life. We left to go to her apartment I danced with her as I undressed her. I felt compiled to move with her. She spoke to me about the future of the world. She adored the imperfections of my body. She also dressed up and I undressed her while she went back to dress up in something new again. She was all lips. One of the best lovers in the world. We spoke with our mouths more than our bodies. It ended with my face next to hers after eating both pairs of her lips. I held her completely and rested profoundly.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt the next day as if I couldn’t do it again. I found out afterward she was an exotic dancer. I feel her lips in a distant memory.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Sterilization

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one really.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The ability to learn my weakness in dealing with women.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Lack of dialogue afterwards.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Women seem to sleep opportunistically while men sleep idealisticall.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? She will always be the flower of the city.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Don’t have casual sex that often. In my life I learned a lot of what not to do. In society it’s creating open hypergamy which isn’t good for heathly pair bonding in a family unit.

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