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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? South Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

‘Foreign’ Phoren Fun

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This happened in a soapy massage parlor in Pattaya. She was sitting along with the other girls under lights, with the prospective customers seated in front of them, checking them out. The girls were calling out/making signs to the prospective customers. She looked a bit reticent from the looks of it, not waving out too much to the men in front of her. That is what attracted me to her. Also, she did not have fake boobs, unlike some of the other girls, another point of attraction.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When I chose her, her number was called out and she came out towards me. I made my payment at the counter and we headed up to a private room. She ordered some OJ which was delivered to the room later.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The hookup began with both of us undressing. She had filled a bathtub with warm. soapy water beforehand. We both entered the bathtub and she scrubbed me all over, playing slightly with my cock. I fondled her breasts and sucked on them a bit. In retrospect, I could have played with her much more in the bathtub. As she was a professional hooker, I was reluctant to finger her, which in my opinion was the right thing to do.

After the bathtub, she washed me down and then I was supposed to lie face down on the air mattress next to the tub, for her to massage me naked. However, that never happened,  which was good because it gave us more time on the bed.

I asked her if she would give me a blowjob, indicating the act, as both of us didn’t speak the other’s language and she spoke only basic English. She said she’d give one only with a condom on, though didn’t look too enthused with the idea. She also refused to kiss me mouth to mouth.

I was clear getting into this that I did not want to have penetrative sex, considering the safety aspect. On the other hand, she was surprised by that fact. She gave me a pretty good hand job, getting my cock really hard. However, I did not come, which left her wondering why.

There was a lot of kissing on my part of her body all over, except her vagina. Also kissed her neck region a lot and kissed and licked her ears. From experience, I know that we are very sensitive in those areas and so was she. Also bit and kissed her nipples and breasts and also massaged the region above her vagina. Had her moaning quite a bit throughout but I didn’t take her to an orgasm. I orgasm only through masturbating, but with her, I didn’t masturbate.

There was a lot of rubbing of our bodies against each other and a little bit of spooning.

After the time spent on bed, she gave me another wash down, we dressed and then left the room and said our goodbyes.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had always believed that sex should be free. However, I went ahead and indulged in this act at the insistence of my friend. There’s been a huge intimacy void in my life since more than 10 years. This act helped address some of that void. I was able to get as intimate as one could given the situation of being with a woman who makes love with at least one man every day.

I also believe that I am a great lover in bed, very attentive and attuned to a woman’s responses and also very giving. Again, this act helped reconfirm those beliefs.

I enjoyed the act enough to go back to the massage parlour the next day. However the said girl was ‘busy’. I didn’t want to go at it with another person so I left the place.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened, No oral sex happened.

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Spoke with a friend about it, he too had indulged in something similar. We both laughed about it.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I could have brought the girl to orgasm and also orgasmed myself. Regret not doing that.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The intimacy and intensity in parts.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Have hardly had any casual sex. Always felt that one needed to be in a relationship to have sex with a person. This hookup has opened my mind to the possibility of one night stands.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Would want society to be less judgemental about casual sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Doing a great job in creating conversations about and opening people’s minds to casual sex.

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