What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Wodonga
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
French Kissing An Italian
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was an older man, semi-retired, maybe in his 60s or older but I’m not sure. His hair was cut short and it was white, his skin was olive and tan and he was quite fit and tone but he wasn’t thin. He wore a fine gold chain with a pendant. He had just moved in next door in the middle of spring, he was a lawyer, he lived alone. He had come over and introduced himself to my family and I after moving in, I was attracted to him immediately. He wore nice clothes and he was charismatic, he spoke gently and he had a nice smile too. I didn’t know him at all before he moved next door. He was my ultimate fantasy. I had seen him once before the hookup out the front of his house doing some gardening or maintenance in the heat of summer, shirtless, tan and sweaty. He was unreal.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It really started maybe 2-3 months before we actually had sex. I was walking home from an appointment in the middle of the day and he was at his mailbox and could see me walking up the path towards him. He waited at the mailbox for me and we started talking. He was asking me general things and telling me some things about himself and we had a pool in our backyard and it was a fairly hot day. He asked if he could come over for a swim before he had to go back to work and I said yes. I was very excited to see him without his shirt again. He was very touchy, nothing uncomfortable or too inappropriate and to be honest I just thought it was because he was Italian. I was wearing a one-piece bathing suit that exposed my back and I had recently started a tattoo covering my whole back. When we got out of the pool he commented on it and as he looked at it he had his hands on my wet, warm back and he watched me in a different way as I put on my jeans over my bathers. He invited me over for a drink anytime.
Months had passed and I was curious about him since we had swam that day. My family was moving out of the house and there was one night everyone was out doing things and I knew that this was my one chance before leaving to see what would happen. His kitchen light was on, I had showered after work, I was feeling good, my heart was racing, so I put on my lingire and my new blue jeans and I went innocently on over next door!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We sat in his living room with the dim light of the kitchen, we drank expensive wine and we talked. He asked me lots of questions about my body and asked me about boyfriends/girlfriends, he showed me a photo of him when he was younger and of his new partner who lives far away and how he likes to be touched by women and that he sleeps naked. When he filled my glass he would put his hand on mine and when we talked about the wine he said he wondered what I would taste like and so I told him: probably just as sweet. Then he asked to touch my arm so I went over to him and he touched my arm with his hands and he held my hand and he was looking at me in that different way like when I put on my jeans that day we swam.
He asked me if I would like to have a seat on his lap so I sat on his lap and he touched me more. He asked me a lot if it was OK and I said yes every time and I wanted him to touch me more. He touched me gently and slowly as if not to break me, he marveled at me and I felt so beautiful and I felt so young and I felt like I was in a dream. He asked if he could see them and so I took off my shirt and then he kissed my skin and his mouth was warm and his hands were big holding me and on my body. I couldn’t believe it! Then I kissed him, softly at first and then with force and passion and like I wanted nothing more in this world. I tasted his tongue and he tasted mine, his stubble was rough but I liked it. When he touched me, I groaned and I sighed, he asked if it was OK. I kissed him everywhere until he came and then we talked some more, naked and happy, and as I left he said “Ciao” and he called me “Bella”, and I was home by 11 and my Mother was asking where I had been.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t sleep all night, all I could think about were his hands on me and I felt powerful with my secret and what I had done. I wanted to see him again and I wanted him to make me come this time but it never happened. I was disappointed thinking about it a little while after because I think what I wanted was for him to make me come as well but I am grateful for my experience and that he was so gentle and kind and wonderful asking for consent.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some close friends and they reacted positively and were interested and were somewhat not surprised.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The age gap, the foreplay/flirting, the spontaneity, the attraction and that it was just pure sex and nothing else.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not enough orgasms, the age gap (functional reasons) and time constraints.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me more sexually confident, allowing myself to be more open to sexual encounters and that I have to be better at communicating what I want from a sexual partner/experience.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I didn’t realise for many years how much I let societies views and opinions on casual sex stop me from being more sexually active and comfortably sexual. For example, I often find it hard to express a sexual side of myself due to a fear of the stigma of the word slut. I love the word and I love women who are so empowered and unafraid of their sexuality, I am personally working on breaking down that fear and barrier myself and also I think trying to discover how to unleash her more freely and confidently.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I only discovered this website today but I have been following your instagram forever! & it has honestly done so much for me and my sexual confidence. I don’t know who I would be without it!
Seeing all of these stories of other people’s casual sexual experiences makes me excited for the future of my sexual experiences and it is interesting to read as well.
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