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by Sgt. Carter
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 56
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? U.S.
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Writer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? many years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Me and Ellen, a pretty-if-slightly-overweight graduate student. This happened after an off-campus party at her single-wide. We met that night and shared eye-contact and smiles three or four times. I liked her soft eyes. They were the kind a man could get lost in if he wasn’t careful. She liked that I was wearing jeans and a light blue sweater, and complimented me as soon as we got there.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I’d been invited by my college friend Richie to attend a party about 20 minutes from our freshman dorm. He had a car so a few of us guys decided to join him. I remember drinking a few cups of homemade wine. There were a lot of people there, most of whom I didn’t know, and it was crowded in that trailer. As the night wore on the crowd thinned out and Richie ended up retreating to a bedroom with Ellen’s horny-as-hell roommate. So there I was, past midnight with no ride back to campus. I spotted Ellen at the kitchen sink washing some plates and asked if she needed help. She probably didn’t, but assigned some chore to me. When we finished she asked if I wanted to share a joint in her bedroom. What’s a freshman to do?
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She turned on dim lamp and we sat at the edge of her full-sized bed. She lit a joint and we passed it back and fourth while I told what a good time her party had been. Moments later we were both a little stoned and feeling relaxed. She kissed me first, and that’s all it took. Her eyes were even prettier in the soft light and her lips were fantastic. This girl knew what she was doing. I knew after five minutes of kissing and nuzzling her neck that I wanted to kiss her all over her body. I wanted to taste her. She felt the same way and offered no resistance as I unbuttoned her blouse and gently coaxed her to lay back on the bed. As I unhooked her bra I felt like I was next-in-line at the snack bar. It unhooked in the front and her breasts spilled into view, two lovely scoops of vanilla topped with ripe cherries. I positioned myself over her and licked and sucked her nipples while my hands supported her medium-sized boobs. Then I stood up and quickly kicked off my shoes and removed my jeans. The outline of my semi-engorged pecker was visible, trying to rip its way out of my undershorts. I returned to the bed and straddled her shoulders, keeping my weight evenly distributed above her. Right on cue she pulled down the elastic on my underwear and liberated my now-throbbing prick — a handsome, six-and-a-half inch morsel of man meat. I hovered it over her mouth and she greedily accepted it. I gently mouth-fucked her for two or three minutes until I exploded, spurting my climax once on a pillow and again on the side of her cheek.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was a stupid kid. I wish I could done something for her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? College friends. They were idiots.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I was a selfish jerk.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? A great orgasm!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I didn’t reciprocate.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It taught me to be more receptive to my partner’s needs. I’ve become better at giving than receiving.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I met her again three weeks later, which was awkward.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I like being married.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This was good therapy for me.
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