What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? North America, MD
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Marketing
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was my freshman year of college and I had a boyfriend back home that I dated all throughout high school. I loved him and had no intention of cheating but being far away at school and experiencing new things and people made me curious. I was fighting the urge to see other people and feeling very confused.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was at a college party, I was very much into physical fitness and actually avoided the heavy college drinking because I didn’t want the weight gain or to give up my gym body. This night however I got a little more tipsy than normal and all those emotions of curiosity came to the surface and I was a little more open to receiving the flirtation and attention from other guys. I was at a crossroads in my relationship with my boyfriend and any time I hinted about seeing other people he would get upset and hurt which made me feel more trapped and more of an urge to see what I was missing. I never planned on cheating I just was confused but vulnerable. My friends introduced me to some senior guys and this one really hot guy started talking to me and he made me feel very relaxed, I could see he was checking me out but he also was confident and didn’t act like an idiot making it obvious and that turned me on. It was noisy and he had to come close to me to talk and our faces kept touching and he said he couldn’t resist my perfume because it turned him on, I wanted to get away from the noise and talk some more and smoke a cigarette so we went outside. My friends all either Hooked up with other guys and weren’t paying attention anyway so when the guy suggested we go back to his house I agreed even though it wasn’t implied we would hookup.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? On the short walk to his house he grabbed my hand and I felt myself get excited and turned on, I kind of thought there was no turning back now and I wanted things to happen. I did feel guilty and thought of my boyfriend of almost three years but in retrospect I needed something like this to happen as a catalyst to move on. It started to rain, literally pour as we were walking and instead of running he stopped and grabbed me right there and kissed me! It was such a turn on, he made me felt safe and his tounge exploring in my mouth made me want his tounge in other places. We walked in his house and he led me upstairs to his room past a bunch of people downstairs that didn’t even give us a second glance. He sat me down on the bed and we continued our make out session some more, his hands explored my body and then down my pants and he could feel how wet and excited he was as he fingered me. I orgasmed once and this made me want him inside of me. We just undressed each other as fast as we could and he put on a condom, we started missionary and he laid on top of me kissing me and I suddenly felt him slide inside of me and stretch me. He was about the same size as my boyfriend but with much more girth and I literally felt him stretch me, he kissed me all over and was licking my boobs. I am usually self conscious because my boobs are small but he made me feel so desired and focused so much on licking them. I came a few minutes later and he grabbed my ass cheeks and wrapped my legs around him and he thrusted really deep and he came soon after. He slowly kissed me and continued to lay on top of me kissing me on my neck which was such a turn on. We took a little break and laid in his bed after I asked for some water, we continued to make out and still couldn’t keep his hands off of me. I felt his cock getting hard again as it rubbed against me, we didn’t stop to put a condom on this time and he turned me around doggy style as I felt him enter me and it was a completely different sensation in this position. He pounded me hard and got a little more rough this time which was a major turn on, he pulled my hair and spanked me and he pounded into me which made me really wet. I felt him tense up and I could literally feel him explode inside of me as my vagina suddenly got really warm and wet. I was on the pill but I wasn’t thrilled about not using a condom but I was equal in getting caught up in the moment. I got dressed and we exchanged numbers and he walked me back to the party so I could find my friends, we kissed goodnight and we never called each other after that. I checked my phone and I had three missed calls and a ton of texts from my boyfriend who I promised earlier I would call to say goodnight and suddenly the guilt and realization came over me. I also felt a sigh of relief because I felt less confused and over the next few days came to the realization I wanted to experience college without being tied down. I went through a rough breakup with my boyfriend who had a really hard time with the prospect of me seeing other people. I did end up confessing to him months later I slept with someone else but didn’t have the heart to tell him we cheated and definitely didn’t share the details even though he wanted to know. Looking back all these years later I definitely made the right decision even though it sucks to hurt someone in the process.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Although it was a one night stand I never felt used for sex because I wanted it too. I needed to do this to give myself the prodding to be on my own but I didn’t want to hook up with the same guy again because I didn’t want to feel like I jumped from one guy to another, I also wanted to experience being alone after being in such a long relationship. I still get turned on when I think about the sex and that night and the guy, I did end up hooking up with him one more time a few weeks later and after I broke up with my boyfriend but I realized it wasn’t as good as the first time although still satisfying. And although it was spontaneous and irresponsible to let him finish inside of me I also learned my lesson that night about safe sex and vowed to always have condoms with me and take precautions and not get caught up in the moment.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To cheer myself up
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommate who was dealing with the same issue of having a boyfriend back home and she supported me. I eventually told my boyfriend but didn’t tell him I cheated.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex of course was way more intense than what I was use to. My long term relationship was very vanilla sex and this was the first time a guy got rough with me and pulled my hair and spanked me etc. also it gave me the courage and motivation to change my situation and realize I wanted to be on my own for awhile and not be tied down.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The guilt from cheating on my boyfriend and also not using the condom the second time even though it was physically satisfying.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes completely, I think all women at some point In their life need to experience playing the field and experiencing different sexual partners to make themselves mature sexually to benefit the right partners down the line later in life when they want to settle.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? As I explained above.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love the fact there is an online forum for individuals to share their experiences and for others to read about them. It’s eye opening when you realize every day people have similar life experiences without having to worry about the taboo.
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