by Emilia

Gender: Female
Age: 28
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Mexico
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Psychologist
Relationship status: On an open relationship
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Frida Gomez Navarro

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand…or so I thought we’re now dating

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a 30 years older than me, widow, tall, dark skin and in very good shape (awesome back , legs and butt). He has the softest skin ever, with grey hair as well as beard, Prada glasses, always looks sharp in his white shirts (doesn’t wear any other color).
I didn’t know him much, I used to see him in the faculty. Long ago when he was my professor it was delightful to see him but I thought he was rude and didn’t care much about him. As colleagues we didn’t talked, he thought I was kind of a mean girl, and for me he was nothing but a wolf!
We began to hook up thanks to a common friend, who told me that he was the sweetest most gentleman ever, so I’ve got curious and found myself quite often masturbating about the thought of an encounter with him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Since I had been cooking the idea of having an encounter with him, I “planned” with a friend that he would invite him to his house for a karaoke night (he is a great singer). There were only four of us in the house, the singing led to dancing salsa and as you may know it’s quite a physical dance, I could feel his lips close to my ear, his hands in my back, and of course his hard erection. After a while we sat close to each other and I began to caress his feet with mine. My friend and his hookup got busy which led me to invite him to my house.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We arrived at my home, in different cars, so the urgency of touching and kissing grew. There’s nothing like that first kiss on the parking lot, it was immensely  passionate, he licked my neck, I unzipped his trousers and gave him a blow job. I was quite shocked to discover the huge size of his penis. So large and thick it almost numbed my mouth. He picked me up and took me to the apartment. At the edge of the door he undressed me. I was thrilled to find expert hands and wet kisses. He was so attentive, there have never been a man who had taken such a great amount of time in kissing every spot in my body. There were no spot his lips hadn’t gone over. 
I felt like a precious object, he kept calling me “doll” and I kept thinking I couldn’t believe I was nude with my ex professor. 
The sex was unbelievable, although the first time his dick went into me it was painfully delightful. He was so passionate and caring at the same time. After the encounter, while the sun was coming out, we talked about the sense of surreality of the situations. The great pleasure and surprise experienced. We listened to songs about forbidden loves and love at most.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I surely had not ONE but MULTIPLE orgasms. He didn’t finished, but I’m sure he had a great time, he kept saying I was amazing!

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condom.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I desired it sooooo much, I kept fantasizing about him and I wanted to live the experience.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol some…

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? A few weeks after, nothing really happened we pretended to be just colleagues. But eventually my blood boiled and I began sexting him, we had frequent encounters. The problem is that we have fallen for each other. We wish we could be together, but there’s nothing on our side. Faculty members have shown disproval towards our relationship (and they don’t even know we’re fucking), my mother used to be a very close friend of his deceased wife, and I can’t stop thinking that at my 40’s he will be 70. So the only plan is to enjoy ourselves while we can, it’s difficult because we love each other.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? 2 close gay friends, who have been very supportive. They were initially shocked and one of them wasn’t delighted about the age difference at first. They know that I’m very much in love and it’s great to have someone to share the experience with.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all, although it complicates things and plans in my life, although I wouldn’t change a thing.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s been an experience that has made me grown a lot, it made me feel confident about myself and it has changed the paradigms I have several subjects. On conclusion it has widen my mind. 
The worst is having to hide, and the shitty opinions other thrown on us, I hate that it seems really difficult to be together.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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