by Farah

Gender: Female
Age: 30s
Race/ethnicity: Mixed
Location: Malaysia [traveling]
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Travel writer
Relationship status: Complicated
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Love the chase
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Enough to have lost count
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Friday Drinks, He Said

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Weekend stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s mixed, looks mainly Asian, tanned, average height & build. Brown sparkly eyes & sexy full lips. We met on vacation at a beach resort about a month ago. So… we both knew what one another looked like almost naked. He has a nice ass. We talked a little. He asked to photograph me, to which I agreed. After that beach meeting, we kept in touch via fb and sms. We met up to see fireflies on a riverboat 2 weeks later. I liked his brown eyes. Plus, he’s funny, we laugh quite a bit. Always group setting with friends around. He works in Kuala Lumpur where I am now and we arranged to meet for drinks on Friday. I assumed it would be a group thing again but was happy when he said that it’s just us. I had fantasized about fucking him but was not planning on it.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met for cocktails, had something to eat and went to the theater with a bottle of wine. He let me drive his car that showed a certain [stupid] amount of trust. We drove around looking for a bar and then he suggested his area which then led to going directly to his place. We talked, drank more. I’m a good-looking girl so I knew that we would fuck if I wanted to fuck. I don’t remember who started it but we were kissing and messing around on the couch. Moved to his bedroom and the clothes came off.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He wasn’t the world’s greatest lover but then neither am I. Straight-forward tit, other tit, oral pussy, and penetration. I don’t know how many times we fucked but it was a lot and most of Saturday was spent in bed. I left Sunday morning to attend a birthday brunch. He has an average penis but was not fully erect the whole time. I prefer my boys big and on full salute. Lots of kissing those full lips and good eye contact. We were open about recent relationships. He was a perfect gentleman, well-trained at boarding school. When asked, he admitted that he had fantasized about fucking me.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We did not use condoms. My last period just ended so I am not worried about pregnancy. He did pull out, came on my stomach but I don’t know if that was every time. We did not discuss STI history – I know mine and he came across as a decent guy. We are both in our 30s and well-educated.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Lust. Horny. Attraction.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol. Before our first fuck, cocktails, wine, lots of vodka. More wine & vodka over Saturday.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He sent sms, I replied. I guess we are still on good terms. I do not have expectations. We get along great and laugh lots. He suggested that we catch up before parting so maybe I’ll see him again. He may meet me in the Philipines next month. I guess he likes me. Well, we fucked, so now the fantasies involving him would not have massive super-hard schlong! And he’s not as tall as I thought.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes. Yes.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was a good hookup. We were, well, I was very comfortable being with him. The worst part was the anxiety on Sunday morning knowing that I would leave. He couldn’t perform our last fuck. Well, it was the third of the morning. He was my first ‘Asian’ and not my usual tall good-looking Caucasian type. I guess I changed to be less shallow about looks- but, he is funny and we get along great.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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