What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Philadelphia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Museum Director
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? poly
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Primarily, I was hooking up with Jake, who is super fit, asian, and so very smooth. He’s in his late 20s, and he’s got these amazing pecs, and a beautiful ass. I met him at the club a few weeks ago, and we exchanged information. Besides Jake, there was this south-asian guy in his 40s who I hadn’t met before, who was our primary third partner. The rest of the crowd was very diverse with all sorts of body types, ranging from 20s to 60s, all men.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After I met Jake at the club, we had texted a few times, but nothing went anywhere. I was depressed that my friend and fuck-buddy, Chris, was out of the country, and I had felt like I had messed up my relationship with Chris during our last encounter. So to cheer myself up I reached out to Jake, and we texted back and forth a bit. He said he was thinking of going back to the club, and we decided to meet there again.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I showed up at the club before Jake did, and went on in. It’s a surprisingly friendly atmosphere, considering that it’s essentially a sex-club. I took off my clothes and went to the back room, and there were already about 15 guys making out and rubbing their dicks.

This cute dark south-asian guy approached me and we started making out. As we were making out, he kept asking me to spank him. To be honest, I was kind of embarrassed to do it. Every time I slapped his ass, he kept saying “harder!” and it was so loud I felt like I was calling too much attention to myself. This older “daddy” type joined us, and he was a real good kisser. A few other guys started to join our circle, and I excused myself to get some air.

That’s when I saw Jake had entered the room. We immediately went to each other and just started making out. He is such an amazing kisser! He is so into it, and he really goes for it, which just turns me on so much. We just kept kissing and groping and stroking each other’s cocks, it was just amazing.

The south-asian guy joined us, and we took turns kissing each other. Jake went to suck his nipples, and the guy yelped! He said his nips were very sensitive. I had never seen a reaction like that and I had to stifle a laugh. He kept asking Jake to spank him, and he was happy to slap that ass.

People started to join our group, and after a while, I could tell that Jake wasn’t liking all the attention. I was tired of standing up, so we went to a couch in the back, and I sat between Jake and the other guy, and we just went at it. The other guy kept saying he wanted me to shoot my cum all over him, and pretty soon we had a crowd of like six guys standing around us on the couch.

I was stroking pretty furiously at that point, going back and forth between Jake and the other guy. The “daddy” type from earlier stood right in front of me, and he said, “I know what you need” and he started rubbing my taint. I shot my load, and everyone kept saying things like, “yeah! there you go!”

I looked up at the daddy, and he winked at me and walked away. It was the hottest thing.

Jake switched sides to join the south-asian guy, and they started going at it. It was so hot I started getting hard again. I started playing with the guy’s nips, and he said he couldn’t hold it anymore, that he was going to cum. Jake started going, “yeah! yeah!” and he got up and started stroking over the guy. The guy started shooting, and Jake started shooting on his chest at the same time.

The three of us just kind of collapsed on the couch. The other guy started telling us about himself: he was in his 40s, he was married with kids, he liked to come out here and get spanked, he loved getting covered in cum.

He got up and left, and Jake and I just sat there on the couch, and then we started kissing again. We got all worked up again, and it just turned me on so much to see how into it was. He kept getting up and worked his ass on my legs, and I could tell he would be the most amazing bottom.

At one point, he said there was something he always wanted to do. I kind of misheard him at first, but he said it again, and I said, sure what is it? And he said he wanted to spit in my mouth.

I thought it was odd, but I was like, sure whatever, we’re already sticking our tongues down each other’s mouths about as deep as they can go, so why not? He then just gathered up some saliva, and let it run down from his mouth into my mouth, and to be honest, it was an incredible turn on. We basically tried to devour each other. He started to put his hands around my neck and choke me. I had never been choked before, but it was really doing it for me, but then he backed-off and apologized, saying he didn’t want to get too rough.

We kept making out for a long time, and then I realized that pretty much everyone had left the club. We were among the last 5 or 6 people still there. I figured we should head out.

We left, grabbed dinner, and talked about various things. He walked me most of the way to my car, we kissed, and then we went our separate ways.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, we texted a few times. I really want to hook up with him again, but our schedules have been complicated. I don’t want to bring him home, because of my husband. He lives with his parents, so he doesn’t want to bring me to his place.

I’m hoping we can hook up again, and we’ve been talking about having a threesome with Chris when he gets back. I really like Jake, and I hope we can have fun again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I mentioned it to Chris, and he was pretty excited for me. He told me that he had hooked up with Jake as well, and that Jake had a fucking amazing ass, which is incredibly true. Chris said he was happy that I hooked up with Jake, because I deserve to be happy.

I also told my coworker, and he was happy that I took care of business. He said he could tell I had fun because I was in a good mood!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was so into it, and he just wanted more! It turned me on so much.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The club doesn’t allow oral or anal, and I really wanted to suck his dick so bad. He teased me a bit, and while I’m normally a bottom, I totally wanted him to hop on my dick.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Going to this club has really opened my eyes to casual sex. I’m really excited to just have fun!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve always felt that sex should be open, fun, and free. I never understood why friends didn’t have sex with each other all the time.

My marriage has largely been sexless, and I just kind of lived with it. I cheated every now and then, but mostly ended up having sex only once every three months (extramarital sex included).

When I met Chris, and we started hooking up, it really opened my eyes to what’s possible. I met a sex-positive friend, who not only wanted to have sex with me, but wanted me to have sex with other people too! We started going to this club, and we met people there, and we expanded our circle. We met a few friends that are fun, attractive, and just cool guys that are totally normal that are also up for having sex!

I wish that the world didn’t have such a negative view about sex in general. Casual sex with friends has given me confidence, and helped me feel happier about myself and my life.

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