by david

Gender: Male
Age: 28
Race/ethnicity: white
Location: Chicago
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Programmer
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
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jewish-arabFriend’s Girlfriend

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, paid sex; something else.)? Fuck-buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was was the girlfriend of a friend from college. I knew her pretty well from hanging out with him for a few years. I always thought she was attractive, but didn’t think she was at all interested in me. We’d all go out to get pizza or beer in college, along with my girlfriend at the time and other people in our crowd. Her boyfriend had cheated on her, but I also knew she had cheated on him. I think they were experimenting with an open relationship, but not entirely sure.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She needed a place to live when she went to graduate school, while her boyfriend went off to take a job in California, and I had just rented an apartment which was bigger than I needed, so it seemed natural to offer her the other bedroom, though perhaps I was hoping it would turn into something more.

And one night after being out at a bar, maybe a month after she had moved in, we came home and sat on the couch. Being a bit drunk, I playfully moved closer, and she didn’t move away. Then I just kissed her, and was surprised and delighted that she was enthusiastically kissing me back.

There was no planning, but after a month of living with her, it just felt inevitable.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed a lot and I was kind of stunned at how good she smelled up close, especially her hair, which was long and curly (her family is from Egypt, but she is totally American). I just reached under her shirt and took it off. She resisted very slightly at first, but then after a minute not at all. She had really amazing firm well-formed breasts. When I started undoing her belt and pants, she got up off the couch, but I got up and we kissed again and kind of tumbled to the floor, where I got her pants off, and she happily let me just put it in, definitely ready and willing. I pulled out in time and came on her stomach. Not sure if she came. We didn’t really talk much. I can’t say she was a great lover, but I’m not sure I was either. it was just about the fucking. She got up and cleaned off, and so did I.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Unfortunately, no precautions at all. Did not discuss diseases or pregnancy. That was kind of stupid, especially since I knew both she and her boyfriend were not very loyal sexually.

We continued like that for the rest of the school year, just doing coitus interruptus, or oral. She did not get pregnant, but that was just luck.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Mostly lust.

Then there was the issue that I’m Jewish and she’s an Arab. i think we were both kind of into it for that reason. Forbidden.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes, we were fairly drunk that first time. Maybe 4 drinks each.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We lived together for the rest of the school year, and had sex a few times a week. I enjoying going down on her and she gave me the occasional blow job, in addition to regular sex. No anal, nothing kinky. Always in the apartment. No one knew, but I suppose just living with her made people suspect.

At first I thought we might get together and I started having romantic feelings for her, but she quickly squashed that and made it clear we were just fuck-buddies. I wanted to keep fucking so I didn’t object, and the romantic feeling completely dissipated. She remained “together” with her remote boyfriend for the rest of that year. Was kind of awkward when he came to visit and would sleep with her in her room. I had to pretend that nothing was going on with her and me.

They did break up after that year, and she went on to have a new boyfriend each year after that. I was out of the picture, but ready to be done with it. We just moved on and I found a real girlfriend I got romantically involved with, and still am.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Haven’t really told anyone the whole thing. That’s kind of why I wanted to write it here.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, totally consensual and wanted for both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, not at all. I’d do it all again if I were single again.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was the absolute delight of that first night. Even before fucking. Just the sort of explosion of sexual relief at getting to kiss and touch her and suck her nipples, which were perfect.

The worst thing was that that guy no doubt suspects and it’s hard to be friends with him now.

It made me more suspcious of women. They can and do cheat, and men are often unaware of it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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