by Jade

Gender: Female
Age: 45
Race/ethnicity: Hispanic
Location: Caribbean
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Auditor
Relationship status: In a relationship
Religious affiliation: Protestant
How religious are you? Very
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 20

Friend With Benefits

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The last one was 10 years younger than me, we used to work together. Was weird, cause I thought he may like me. One day he call me and ask me if i wanted to have sex with him without any compromise, he was so cute that I didn’t said no. He is 6’2 tall, very athletic, big arms, nice abdominals etc etc, a real candy. That night he went to my house and we had oral sex, he left and I thought he wouldn’t call again, but two later he call and we talk, so we decide to have a safe sex relationship without getting involved. For five years we had this relationship, was perfect for me, then he moved to the States and he start traveling every three month, but his job didn’t let him come more often and he bought his house so he couldn’t travel as many times he used too. I love the relationship because he gave me the opportunity to decide what kind of relationship I wanted without any pressure. I hate guys that come with all this stuff “like you so much” “I think I love you” bla bla bla and then when after some time, when they find another girl or when they got tire of you, of course after they had the best sex ever, they decide to left you because they find out that you not are what they really want. I like the kind of man that is honest with me and tell me whats he really want and give me the opportunity to decide if I wanted to do it or not. Now I’m in a great relationship with a wonderful man. Sorry about my grammar, I hope you understand.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At work

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Everything you can imagine

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? In the beginning we use condoms and then nothing

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I really like him and for fun

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Was great

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just a few of friend, and no one said anything about it

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? For both of us

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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