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What’s your gender? Woman
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Free
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, muscular, elegant, and arrogant. We met at this social gathering at my residency, but we didn’t talk. He ‘slid into my DMs”, and we started talking for a few days. He asked me to come over to his flat which was on the same floor as mine after our exams were over. I was flattered that a guy like him would talk to me, he was so out of my league. And I hadn’t been seeing anyone or fucked anyone in a few weeks so I was in. But I was not particularly interested in him before he started talking to me. Even the night at the gathering I ending up having sex with a different guy.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Once our exams were over, I went to his flat for a beer and we started talking and smoked a few cigarettes. He made me listen to his favorite music and as we were talking he told me about a scar on his shoulder from a football injury. He took his top off to reveal his it along with his abs. Later, I mentioned my tattoos and he said he had one that he would show me later. He didn’t end up having any tattoo and he was referring to his dick. But I played the game too and told him I had a third one which I would show him later. When I showed him the one on my back he asked me if I wanted a massage. He rubbed my shoulders and when I turned around we immediately began making out. I sat on his lap and undressed quicker than ever.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? During the hookup, we started slowly with oral and then the missionary position. We ended up fucking four times and he asked me to stay over at his for the night. Our second round was the first time a man had ever licked my clit. I was worried and I had so many questions running around my head (does it smell? Did miss a spot shaving?) But I didn’t have any regrets. After our second round, we showered together and watched the last episode of Season 7 of Game of Thrones, I remember I fell asleep on his chest during the episode. He woke me up in the morning around 6 am for another round, which was quick and we both fell asleep again afterward. When he woke up a few hours later with a hard-on and pressed his boner against my thigh, it was more of a turn on for him. Except I had to tell him to stop during the middle of our fourth round because my vagina was in too much pain to carry on. I apologized and asked him if we could meet again another time. He agreed but had questions to why I was in so much pain; I had to explain that it was because of my contraceptive pills. He then made me breakfast and I left after that.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, I was excited to tell my friends that I finally managed to get laid with my 6th guy in the span of four months. I only told my three closest friends. I am very open to them about my hyper-sexuality I guess. As for the guy, we turned out to be fuck buddies. We had many falling outs, unfortunately, because we became so close and knew each other’s weakness. Near the end, all we did was argue, push each other to the edge, and fuck. He left when he realized I had sex with so many guys in such a short amount of time even though he was also hooking up with other girls. He never told me we were done though, he just blocked me on every social media. As much as I enjoyed the sex that we had together, we are very different on a psychological level. I enjoyed what we had together, but the past is the past and I don’t want to go back there.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…)

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my closest friends and they were happy for me.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I was able to discover new sexual positions and places where I could hook up with people. And, I made myself a friend that I could count on at my residency; for example one day one of my lights burned out and I asked him if he could fix it. Or when I was lonely, we would spend time together watching TV or even have dinner together. He was a great cook!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We became very toxic to one another near the end.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, this hookup changed my perspective about myself in having the confidence to have casual sex and learn new things on the way.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has, played a major role in my sex life, mainly because I have commitment issues but also because I am a human with sexual needs. I don’t think it devalues me or any other women. Some people asked me if I miss being “loved” to which I reply I don’t need to have a man to feel love because I have a family and great friends. I can’t imagine myself in a relationship because I’d feel suffocated, I have been single my entire life and enjoyed every aspect of it, whether it’s casual sex or being independent.

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