What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Mississauga, Ontario, Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months ago in November
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was pretty cute petite girl. Lets name her Sanjana for this post. Sanjana was a confident open minded Indian girl who was 5″ 4′, had black hair, brown eyes, curvy body and had 34D as her breast size. I had known Sanjana for about 2 years, we met at party and instantly became best friends. Sanjana and me shared ever thing about our relationships to our kinky fantasies. We never hooked up before this but I was extremely attracted to her. I always found her pataka/hot. She has an amazing smile and was a pleasure to look at and her open minded thinking was a huge turn on.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hook up began at a friend’s birthday party. She recently broke up with her bf thus was looking for rebound sex. There was no planing involved. We were at a friend’s house party for her birthday and we were sleeping over. Being her best friend, I asked her if she is okay and she told me how she was feeling lonely and was not okay.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After cutting the cake at our friend’s birthday, we played truth or dare where we all made each other do funny/insane dares. Sanjana was out of it but I convinced her to play so her mood lightens up. We were both drinking. The game was to drink while we played the game. Since it was just our friends, I chose truth for one of my turns. A friend of our knew about us being friends and asked us…being friends, haven’t you guys ever thought of dating? It was awkward at first but I honestly said I have always been attracted to Sanjana and she would be perfect person for me. Sanjana was just staring at me and giving me a look as if I said something really bad. Afterwards, someone dared Sanjana to kiss me. I was quite uncomfortable since I wanted this for a long time but she did not hesitate. She moved closer to me and held my face while giving me a smooch. I was extremely turned on and she could tell by the buldge on my jeans. To save me from embarassment, Sanjana sat on my lap. The night went on and everyone went into their respective room. Me and Sanjana went to our own rooms. I took off my shirt since it was hot and just had boxers on. After few minutes I hear a knock, I opened the door and saw Sanjana standing there. I let her in and we just sat on the bed. She was sitting pretty close which was unusual. I asked her, “what’s wrong” and she puts her hand on my thighs. I just awkwardly smile and she got closer to kiss me. I was so turned on so I went for the kiss. I played with her tongue and bit her lips as she started to moan slowly. She let her hands through my boxers hold my hard cock in her hand. She started to give me a handjob while I gave her hickies on her neck. I could tell she was pretty arroused herself. I slowly removed her shirt and then her bra. I started sucking on her nipples and they were hard. She was moaning hard so I started to rub her on top of her panties. She was dripping wet. I decided to take control and took off her panties and opened her legs wide. I ate her wet pussy as she moaned grabbing my hands tightly. She took me in her mouth as well to return the favor. She definitely knew how to swallow. For the next two hours, I fucked her in missionary, doggy and cowgirl. It was the best sex we both had. It ended with us cuddling and talking about turning our friendship into a relationship
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, we met up each other many times. We started dating a month after and still dating. We started experimenting sexually. We were both really kinky and wanted to try public sex, and handcuffs. We did end up having public sex at a lounge/club.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Our friends and they were not shocked at all. They knew one day it would have happened
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Led to us getting together.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing really.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I believe it changed for both of us. We both were one one man kind of ppl and wanted to only have sex with whom we are serious with. However, we had a lot of casual sex after this experience. We kept experimenting and learning about each other. Casual sex is lots of fun!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I found out Sanjana is a squirter 😉
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would say Casual sex is more normal than people think it is. We should respect it, love it and enjoy it rather than treating it as a taboo. Casual Sex allows us to explore our sexual needs which is very important.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Pretty fricken awesome!
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