What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? San Francisco Bay Area, CA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Research Assistant
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I can’t really remember how we met, we may have met on Myspace. I want so say we started hooking up when I was 23 or 24? I ended the relationship when I was 26 because I had entered into a monogamous relationship with my current boyfriend. My partner is also two years younger than me. When we first started hooking up, I didn’t think much of him besides the fact that he was hot. He was not really my type. He was tall, athletic and a jock. I recall him not being very intelligent. Well I shouldn’t say that, our academic endeavors were different. At the time, he was in community college and I was pursuing my Masters degree. Let’s just say we didn’t have a whole lot to talk about. He is tall, probably around 6 feet, Caucasian and traditionally good-looking.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My boyfriend and I had opened up our relationship. I had deleted my fuck buddy’s number 5 years ago. I remember going on LinkedIn and he was listed as “Someone you might know.” I sent him a message, told him about my situation and gave him my number. He texted me back and casually planned meeting up. He came over to my place when my boyfriend was out of town.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Given I had not seen my fuck buddy for 5 years, I was pleasantly surprised to find he was even hotter than I remember. He had always been good looking but now 5 years later, he had grown into a man with a sexy beard. I gave him a blowjob and then we had vaginal sex. The sex was amazing. I forgot how big his dick was and I felt completely filled up. I remember yelling “Fuck” the whole time. He was also aggressive with me, pulling my hair and holding me down which I loved, especially since I didn’t have to tell him to do it. It was the right amount of force. We hardly talked except to say “Thank You” after it ended and he was on his way out my door.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Immediately after the hookup I remember feeling giddy and sufficiently fucked. I called my best friend and told her all the details. He texted me after and said “It was amazing.” We continue to have sex, although it can be hard to find the time since we are both in relationships with other people.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend. She was positive and interested.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I liked that it was easy and casual, drama-free and of course that the sex was amazing.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think it made me appreciate my fuck buddy more and that I love a big dick.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love and prefer casual sex. For the most part it has played a positive experience in my sexual life, although I have experience some casual sex that was not so enjoyable. I believe casual sex can be especially empowering for women, not to say everyone should do it. It’s important to know yourself and your sexual limits so that way you can have positive sexual experiences, whether casual or not. It has taken me a while to get here, as a thirty year old woman. In my teens and most of my twenties, I had sex for the wrong reasons. It’s nice to be in my thirties and be a confident woman who knows what she wants in bed and isn’t afraid to ask for it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great idea which allows people to think through the casual sex they’ve had.
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