What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 34
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? graduate student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? ~25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Fucked in His Truck Like Teenagers
How long ago did this hookup happen? yesterday
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I moved to a small city to attend graduate school from NYC and am generally disappointed in the dating pool here. I haven’t met anyone I would actually want to date, and have had very mixed experiences with casual sex before, so haven’t pursued that either. Long story short, it had been way too long since I’d gotten laid, dammit. At any rate, last week I had the opportunity to hook up with an incredibly sexy guy on his last night in town but I blew it. I don’t know why. Maybe I’m just out of practice at hooking up, didn’t really realize until later that he was actually into me, or I’ve just been so ‘closed for business’ in general I couldn’t get it together when it was in front of my face. But afterwards I was filled with intense regret, so much so that I lost a fair amount of sleep over it. I still regret it very much. Probably always will be. This man is seriously sexy, and now he lives in another state.
The above sexy man made me realize how long it had been/ how much I missed sex. So I became horny as hell, and also in dire need of something to distract me from the fact that I let him go. Cue me fishing since then everywhere I went for someone to fuck, but still not interested in just anyone. I went to a party two nights ago, and my pheremones must have been broadcasting. I was trailed by several dudes, but they were all terrible, so I went home alone, hornier and more despondent than ever.
So this was my frame of mind when I went to the lake with my friend yesterday, where I saw a guy I thought was interesting looking. He is nowhere near as sexy as the guy above, but his face is fascinating. One of those faces that is just beautiful, but also interesting, not generic. Really a fantastic face, very memorable.
There was absolutely no planning involved. Neither of us expected anything like what followed to happen. It was just a regular Sunday afternoon. His big plan for that night was to do laundry.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So I positioned me and my friend near him, without even really thinking about it. He eventually started talking to us. My friend left to go run errands. I stayed. At this point I’m clearly curious about him and I’m vetting him. He’s interesting, he’s not a dummy or too weird. Good enough I decide. It got later, he suggested we drive somewhere to watch the sunset. I agree, we drive to an overlook. Sexual tension is high, he’s touching me with his arms, legs. I eventually make the move and kiss him.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We make out there, it starts to get heavy. He starts rubbing my clit over my bathing suit, begins to put his hands under my bathing suit. But there are other people at the overlook. So we go back to his truck, which is ancient, and amazingly has a bench seat. He immediately goes down on me, and lo I am so fucking hot, it feels so good! But I have always been very shy about cumming, and have never had an orgasm from a hook up, and so I have a half orgasm, which is like a slo-mo orgasm and is likely the best I can do in this situation. But I’ve been so pent up and horny, and it feels amazing, and after I have the same sense of release and pleasure and satisfaction, so it must have been more or less an orgasm. The jury is still out on that.
We find a condom and fuck. I ride him, it’s amazing to have a dick inside me after months of no dick inside me. His cock is nicer than expected, good size, good shape. I am very pleased about this. I am very pleased to have this happening! When dating someone I am insatiable. I could fuck forever, everyday, all day. Just love it. He’s loving it too, he’s full of compliments for me, he’s expressing his pleasure very loudly, ha. (side note: I love it when a guy clearly enjoys licking my pussy) Eventually things slow a bit, my legs are tired from riding him. He falls out of me, takes condom off. Apparently at some point he came, but I can’t pinpoint when. We make out some more. He says he wants to go again. He asks if he can put it in without a condom just for a bit. I hesitate but agree, because it def feels better without a condom to me as well. I know it’s irresponsible, my friends would be so mad at me if I told them. But the whole hookup is impulsive; I just met this guy a few hours before, and know nothing about him, but nonetheless am fucking him. In his truck. In public (though it’s dark by now and we’re the only people there)!
We fuck more bareback, it feels incredible. He pulls out to come once, twice, three times. It’s great. But eventually we stop, he says he has to go, has to get up early. He drives me home, drops me off. I ask if he wants my number but then we agree it’s best to leave this as a mysterious and serendipitous encounter, and leave it to chance for us to meet again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I love the idea of our encounter as a serendipitous, random event, which can become a beautiful, crazy memory, the kind where I wonder: did that actually happen?? But I’m also a little disappointed. I want to be with someone, I want to find a partner. And it left me so curious about him. He turned out to be a fantastic lover and a very interesting person. And I might never see him again. Though who knows, I might dislike him in another context. I’m still trying to figure out how I feel about this. I think that’s why I’m writing about it here. Also, I’ve decided to not tell my friends, because it feels good to have a secret, ha.
Today I feel a little crazy. I haven’t done this in ages and it’s stirring up some stuff. Can’t concentrate on anything. I’m hoping tomorrow I can go back to my sexless but productive life.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t talked to anyone about this yet. I might eventually, but I kind of like having this kind of secret. It feels fun.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It felt amazing!! I really, really needed it. Also it helped take my mind off of the very sexy guy.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? No condom, a little worried about that. Unsure if I’ll see him again and unsure how I feel about that. Also, I feel crazy today. Was pretty non- functional. My hormones and emotions are a bit out of control. Hopefully that will pass, hopefully writing this will help.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This was probably the best casual sex I’ve ever had. I used to have casual sex much more often but it was always unsatisfying. But I’ve evolved a lot sexually in the past few years and this was different.
My biggest problem with casual sex is that I have a hard time not developing feelings when there’s sex involved. I don’t know why, and it has led me to date people I don’t actually like. Which is terrible. This encounter was great in that it was very pleasurable for me, but not great in that I still seem to care even when it’s not a good idea.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We haven’t talked about the fact that I had HPV, the wart kind. It’s passed, and according to everything I’ve read I’m very likely not contagious. But still. I didn’t tell him, and we had sex without a condom. This also weighs on my mind.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Generally I think casual sex is fine, as long as you aren’t being pressured into it and know yourself well enough to get what you want from it. Fucking is great, bodies need bodies, the world would be a better place if people stopped pretending it was any other way.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great! Fun to peruse.
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