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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I am still experiencing and exploring what I like and prefer while being intimate with people.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Fucking In Seoul

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ll call him Y. Y is Korean, 35 years old, 180 cm tall, a little bit chubby, and has glasses. He had short black hair and dark brown eyes. I am a curvy brunette with the height of 174 cm and big brown eyes. Y and I had chatted on Tinder and decided to meet up before we went to a love hotel.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Y drove me to a place near a love hotel that he had booked for us, but before we went there, we had dinner and drank a lot of alcohol because we both were nervous and wanted to make ourselves at ease. We talked a lot about our lives, interests, and I found out that he studied in Amsterdam for a long time and traveled to other European countries. He was a talkative, funny, and intellectual person. After our dinner, we went to the love hotel.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we were in our room, I was still nervous but horny at the same time and he realized it. Y started to kiss me tenderly, stroked my body, and made a lot of compliments about my curves. He took my hand and guided me to the huge bed and tied my hands with a wet towel, which he used as a rope (at dinner he talked about Japanese bondage which I liked it too). After that, he fucked me missionary first and later in doggy style. He was a good fuck buddy because he gave me many orgasms.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Y. and I met several times until we got busier through study and work and we could not meet anymore. I could not even say goodbye to him when I left Seoul.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my best friend.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His sex and his introduction of bondage. He could please me better than my stupid ex.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes because of this experience with Y. I am not against casual sex. I feel more comfortable as a sexually independent woman today and do not judge people who have many sex partners.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sex should not be viewed as taboo by our society because we are living in the 21st century and we all need to be open-minded.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like to read the stories of other people, and I am happy I got the chance to share my story 😀

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!