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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Middlesbrough, England
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Government data analyst
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Fucking a redhead indie rocker girl

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, slim redhead with a fringe in high heels and jeans, kind of an indy-rocker look to her. I met her on tinder, she suggested a date at a bar. I felt that she was sexy and funny and wanted to meet her.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I invited her back to my place after drinks at several bars. After watching television for a few minutes I started to passionately kiss her. After a while feeling her breasts and ass, she grabbed my crotch and I felt my cock growing. I took her hand and led her to the bedroom to fuck her after about 5 minutes of this.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I kissed her and gently pushed her onto the bed. She took her top and bra off while I pulled off her jeans. I took my t-shirt off then undid my jeans to get my cock out. She was writhing in anticipation on the bed as I peeled her knickers off and started fingering her pussy. I wanted to go down on her but she had too much pubic hair.

After a few minutes, I put my cock in her pussy and started fucking her in missionary position. I could not get particularly hard as I had had sex with a woman two days prior, received a blowjob from the same girl the next morning and then had sex with a different woman the day before this encounter. I didn’t think I was going to cum so I pulled out and started fingering her again. She pushed me down on the bed and started riding me. She was quite wild.

At some point, she climbed off and took my cock in her hand, wanking me vigorously. I told her to wank me until I came and she said, “Explode in my hand, baby” and she made me cum quickly from this.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After sex, she went to the bathroom to clean up and I put my clothes back on while she was away as I was sexually spent from the encounter and sex with other women the previous days. I had the feeling she wanted to fuck more but I had no energy left. When she came back, she expressed surprise that I had put clothes back on, then got dressed herself.

We then left the bedroom and cuddled for a while and watched television. She rang for a taxi. She sent me a text after she left saying it was the best first date she had ever had and she couldn’t wait for the next.

She texted me a couple of times afterward but I had already decided I wanted to see someone else on a more serious basis and didn’t feel I should see her again. When I explained this to her she was obviously upset but said she was happy for me that I had found someone. I wish I could have stayed friends with this person without the sexual element but she was not interested in that.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? The woman concerned really, really liked me but I was casually dating several people at the time and had already decided which one wanted to pursue a serious relationship with (not her). She was very disappointed when next week I explained to her that I had met someone else and didn’t want to see her again.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with a hot, wild redhead, her making me cum with a handjob.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Feeling bad that I didn’t want to take things further with her even though she really liked me.

Feeling a little guilty that I had sex with this woman while knowing there was someone else I had recently met that I wanted to pursue a serious relationship with. I don’t class it as cheating on my current partner as things were not serious at that point, but on the other hand, I have not told her about it and don’t plan on doing so.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it made me doubt whether I would ever go back to having casual sex were my current relationship to breakup. I don’t think I can handle the feeling of telling people that I didn’t want anything more than sex if they want something more. I started to think that it is rare to have casual sex without at least one partner wanting more.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I had never had casual sex until this year. My thoughts are that it is not worth the upset it will cause as one partner usually wants more than just sex even if they won’t admit it. It causes me upset that knowing this I would still have casual sex were I not in a relationship (until I found a new one) as i have a very high sex drive that I would not be able to control.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I don’t know much about it.

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