What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? researcher
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15-20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 20 minutes
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was young, black, super lean and built from working as a personal trainer. I’m guessing he was about 28-30. Sooooo hot.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He saw me walking down the street on my way to a meeting in a hotel and gave me a look. I looked back.
I thought that would be it, but suddenly there he was in the hotel, and I went up to him and said, “You can’t just give me a look like that and not follow up.” We exchanged numbers and I went to my meeting. Later we met up at my hotel in the bar and he asked if I wanted to have some fun. I said I wanted a drink first, so we had a cocktail–but ended up guzzling it because we both wanted to get back to my room so fast.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was great. I’ve had a number of one-night-stands but none as good as this one. Usually sex with someone you don’t know isn’t great…you don’t know their rhythms, what they like. But we progressed from undressing each other, to me sucking his cock, to me on top, reverse cowgirl, him on top, doggy style, and he finally came while pinning me to the bed and fucking me hard.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We cooled off and had a shower, then got dressed. We decided we’d meet again the next night for another round. Hope that works out! He was a treat.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Texted my husband before and after. Supportive as always.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was so perfectly the thing I fantasize about, and the whole reason I got into an open relationship. Totally no-strings attached sex in a hotel while I’m traveling; my partner is a hot stranger who I don’t expect to have a relationship with. Soooo great.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Condoms. I hate condoms.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? God I love hairless men.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has been a boon to my marriage. But I can’t talk about it with anyone I know–virtually none of my friends or family know–and I would feel like they would judge me. So I keep it to myself.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a nice outlet since I can’t share this with other people!
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