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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Architect
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Fun by the Sea
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a blonde girl, a year older than me. I’ve already seen her a few times due to mutual friends and the fact that we both lived in a small, pretty rural town. I might have done some small talk with her before, but nothing special. In summer, a couple of friends and I went to a lake that is maybe an hour of car driving or something away of out hometown. We went there to camp and have a good time hanging out. It was funny but not to surprising that we the girl, lets name her Ramona, and a friend of hers at the same camping site.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? In the nights, we used to drink a good amount of alcohol and nearly every night we ended up swimming naked in the lake next to the camping site. One evening, Ramona and the other girl joint out way to the lake. There were also some girls in my own group, but they had never been bathing naked with us, but Ramona seemed to be more open-minded and decided to swim with us, while her friend stayed outside. No surprise that the naked Ramona with pretty big tits was the highlight between all the guys and everyone seemed to get near to her. Fooling around in the warm water, I recognized that she seemed comfortable with me and we always had some eye contact. I don’t know why but my eyes work brilliant when it comes to flirting. Suddenly our swim had to stop because it started raining and we got out the water. I took my boxers on and Ramona was a little in trouble as her clothes had become wet because of the spraying water. I suggested to give her my trousers instead and she whispered that I should then keep in mind that she is naked in my clothes. We both smiled but then had to rush back to the camping site because there was some thunder action going on, so we decided to wait there in my car till its over. I don’t remember why, but I ended up sitting in back seats with Ramona and two friends of mine were sitting in the front seats. We all joked around and Ramona and I started to secretly set out hands in each other. Few minutes later, I had my hands under the trousers touching her nice ass. The two guys in front did not recognize what was going on and I liked the feeling of the secret tension. When the thunder stopped, my friends hurried out to get more beer an Ramona asked me if we should go to her tent. Who would not have taken that invitation? She led me to her tent pulling my hand with her.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got in and immediately started kissing and touching each other. Things got her way and we quickly undressed each other. I rubbed her already wet pussy and she moaned heavily, seemed like she was waiting for it. At some point she told me to lay at my back and I did so. She climbed in top of me and kissed me starting with some tongue kissing action slowly down my body. As she reached my cock I was of course rock hard already. She grabbed my cock and stroked it, always playing on the tip with her tongue. I loved it and was really enthusiastic so I started to grab her head and intensify it even more. She was really gold with her mouth and seemed to like the harder way AS she was going deeper and deeper till she in fact deep-throathed me. I had never had such a intense blowjob before. Suddenly the tent opened and her friend stared at us. For me, that was really weird but Ramona seemed not to overreact but only told her friend to come back later. She continued sucking and then grabbed a condom of her nearby bag. She fitted the condom, looking straight into my eyes. She did not even loose eye contact when she got on top of me. As I was getting into her the warmth overwhelmed me and we both moaned heavily. I grabbed her ass while she was riding me and we pretty fast found out rhythm and she came with some all-body-shaking. I was struggling to cum because of the alcohol and so I told her to blow me again. She die and was really getting hard with it so I was about to finish. I told her I’m just before the point but she did not mind and continued. I could not hold it anymore and sprayed everything in her mouth. She seemed to like it and I could watch her swallowing every drop. We lay down and kissed and cuddled a bit when she told me she wanted to do that since we were going into the lake. I asked if there was a problem with her friend having seen us but she didn’t care. We decided to part ways for this night as we got tired, so I went out and after a last beer with my friends I went to sleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day, I woke up and got out the tent. Ramona and her friend wanted to pack their stuff and part, and offered us their leftover beer. She and I had some chatting and she told me she would like to see me again back im out hometown. Her friend only had some strange looks into out direction but did not say anything. After we had also went back home in the next day I found out Ramona had a boyfriend, but the next time we accidentally met on a party they had already broken up. Ramona and I met in nearly every party in the following half of the year, but we both always partied separate with other friends but find each other in the end and I would always walk with her home after the party. In these walks we used to allays talk dirty stuff, kissing and touching and we found some hidden spots where we had really fun on. Problem was that we could not go to her house because she lived there with her mum, which was a employed in my fathers company, and her brother, whom I also had mutual friends with. We both liked our time but there was nothing more than sexual atraction and same party mood, so we decided to keep things secret to keep stress with talking away in the rural city. One time, I recognized two other friends of mine were arguing at a party and I saw Ramona getting out in tears. I followed her and she told me she feels bad because they found out they were both interested in her. This night I decided to end this before provoking stress with my friends if they find out about me and her. When we met after that, there was always some tension but nothing more happened. She moved to another city to study and I did a year if social working before attending college. I had a workshop to do for the social thing and it turned out it was in the City where she now lived. We decided to meet there and had some beer, but nothing happened because I already had a girlfriend back then and we only chatted and reminded old times. Now we see each other with no planning maybe 1 time a year at out hometown and have small talk, more like old friends. After the affair back then I had a short relationship till the girl broke up and the evening if the break-up I was introduced to another girl which now is my girlfriend for nearly 6 years.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Making new friends, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked about the girl years later with the friends who were at the lake with us and they said they did neither recognize it back then nor during the half year after it. Was funny to talk about. With some time in between I also talked with one of the other friends who had an argument back at the party but he said it was not a real task and we could laugh about everything.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She was a very sexual and dirty-minded person. My 18-year-old-me liked that very much and with other girls, this was my most active partner-time before getting into a long relationship.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Back then I was not comfortable about her friend interrupting is, but it could not stop things.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it was my first casual sex back then and I like the idea.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I really like casual sex, but beeing in a monogamous relationship it doesn’t happen anymore. I have gold sex life now and even more often than back then, but sometimes you miss the things you do not have. Now, I miss flirting and casual sex sometimes, but I remember the stress I had before and how much a wanted a serious relationship.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love the idea if the project and after pretty much reading I wanted to add a own story because the crowd is what is essential about such a project
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