by Twiggy

Gender: female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: white
Location: London
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: none
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Fun, Gin and Boring Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? one night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a skinny guy with a floppy blonde mop of hair and mad fashion sense. At the time he was wearing a 90s cap and mismatched scruffy hipster clothes. His faux working class English accent is slightly annoying but he is unwittingly charming, even though I wouldn’t immediately have been attracted to him physically. We met briefly at a gig and in passing I told a friend I thought he was hot, because I was charmed, then he heard through the grape vine and a few weeks later messaged me on facebook to ask if I wanted to go for a drink.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went for the drink and one drink turned into many. We had lots of silly chat as we both got nervously drunker. As the bar began to close around us we moved onto another basically empty pub, which had later opening hours, and chatted and flirted more. He told me about his secret tattoos and while I play fought him to force him to reveal them, I wondered whether I should sleep with him or not. We were sitting across from each other but after another gin and tonic he pulled me round to his seat and kissed me. Little kisses became big ones and our seriously public displays of affection completely emptied the last of the few customers out of the pub. I invited him back to mine (it was much closer in London terms, although still a 30 minute walk compared to an hour long night bus ride to his).

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? All the way home he was picking me up and pushing me against walls and kissing me hard, then when we kissed our way along my hall and into my room he lifted me up and wrapped my legs around his waist, pulling me onto the bed with him. We threw our clothes off and even though I wasn’t sure how attracted to him I was, it felt a bit late to decide now so I thought, ‘fuck it’ and we had sort of boring drunk sex with no foreplay, just bang bang thank you mam. I didn’t get very much from it and definitely didn’t have an orgasm, although he did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom which I had in my bedside drawer. We didn’t discuss anything, I just handed it to him and he obeyed and then we had sex.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Boredom? It was just a bit of fun. I don’t usually have one night stands but it was a Wednesday night during a boring month so I thought, why not? It was fun enough, though the sex wasn’t great.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Quite a bit of alcohol, which made it less difficult to chat on the date before. I had at least 4 glasses of gin and tonic, some of them doubles. But I’m Scottish, so that’s not crazy drunk for me, I was just a bit tipsy.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We woke up and kissed a bit then he went off to work and I sat around in my dressing gown waiting for my housemate to come in so I could tell her the story. It was funny and fun at the time so no regrets. We might hook up again but we don’t have enough of a connection to date.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few of my friends, they just liked the stories about his tattoos and his penis and stuff. It was funny.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was the crazy kissing all the way home. I always laugh to myself thinking of it when I walk that way. The worst was how boring the sex was. I always find the best sex is had in relationships.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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