What’s your gender? Man
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open-minded and curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? High 30s
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? A few

Fun Time At a Sex Club

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My wife is a hot blonde: 34Cs, thin-waisted, and fit. She was looking amazing in her black dress with the long zipper in the front. I’m 5’10” and fairly solid, a few pounds over my ideal weight, with very muscular butt and legs. The other people involved were a couple in their mid- to late-30s. The man was muscular and, like me, had a shaved head, but he had a bit of a belly. His partner was, by porn standards, a MILF: thin waist, long dirty-blond hair, breasts like my wife’s, long legs. When she first came into the club, I noticed that she was wearing sexy boots strung up to the knees, and I pointed her out to my wife. I’ll call them Ken and Barbie. We never learned their names, anyway.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? This story takes place at a sex club that we’ve attended a number of times before. Our favorite spot, which closed earlier this year, was much better, but since then, this club has made a few improvements and has also become more popular, which means that there is a greater number of people who might turn you on. In the past, there were nights when this club was almost empty, but recently it’s been pretty packed on weekends.

My wife isn’t interested in contact with other men (though if we’re at a club, she generally won’t stop a man from touching her) but is ok with me touching and being touched by other women, and she likes touching other women. In the past, we’ve had a few good experiences at clubs but have only had a few visits that were, on the whole, worth the price of admission. If our trips to sex clubs were seen as baseball statistics, I think we’d be batting 3-for-10, and before this visit, I’d only had an orgasm at a club once. For my wife, a perfect visit would mean us having sex next to another attractive couple while she and the woman touch each other, and my wife would have a few orgasms. We had an experience like that last year, and this was similar. But for me, this was the best visit we’ve had for reasons I’ll get to soon.

This club opens its doors around 10:30 and lets people go up to the playrooms an hour later. We were among the first to arrive and found that the hour went by surprisingly fast. My wife had a couple drinks to help her ease into the mood, and we checked out couples as they arrived. At 11:30, we went upstairs and found that no one had gone as far as the top level, where there are five beds; the two in the back of the room are connected. We undressed, and we went down on each other on one of the back beds, then fucked for a bit. A few couples came upstairs, saw how empty the room was, and left. After we’d fooled around for ten minutes or so, we went back to the second level, then the lowest level. No one else was having sex, but my wife correctly figured that if we gave it time, we’d find the top level a lot busier. By midnight, there were indeed a few couples fucking and a few guys getting blowjobs, but the room was still mostly onlookers. People at this club can be very shy! That’s why the old club was so much better. They really knew how to make people feel comfortable. It’s all about the layout.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We sat and watched the action as it heated up in the far reaches of the room. At one point, I mentioned to my wife that we could watch three blowjobs at once (two on beds and one in the standing position). I love watching guys get blown, so that was a sexy scene. “Our” bed in the back was being used by the hot couple mentioned earlier, Ken and Barbie. They were alternating between fucking and oral. My wife offered to give me a blowjob before we left, so I said we should try to squeeze in near the hot couple.

I took off my clothes and lay down on the bed next to them; my wife kept her dress on but removed her shoes and stockings. At this point, Ken was lying down to my right and Barbie was going down on him, but soon they switched positions and started fucking again. I made some advances towards her, touching her shoulder, and she didn’t signal for me to stop. At some point, they switched into doggie style. Barbie started to touch us, so my wife unzipped her dress to her waist, and at this point, I was holding Barbie’s breast while Ken was pounding her from behind as my wife blew me. Normally I have a hard time coming from oral sex, but this situation was really getting me worked up! Barbie was taking turns touching my wife’s breasts and jerking me off, and my wife was touching Barbie’s breasts and shoulders.

I was hoping that Barbie would go down on me, so when my wife took a break from giving me head, I signaled for her to let Barbie have a turn, and I moved to the right in order to make that happen. But although she was jerking me off while her guy fucked her, Barbie clearly didn’t want to go down on me. I was only a bit disappointed — I love being the front end of a spitroast and was hoping to do that again — but her hand was doing such a great job that I could feel myself getting ready to come… and in my life, I have never come from a handjob! As the sensation continued to grow, I took in the scene one more time: Barbie was jerking me off, inches from her face. I was cupping her breast, feeling her body move back and forth as Ken fucked hard from behind. My wife had her dress unzipped and was touching Barbie and me. And on the bed next to ours, another couple was going at it hot and heavy and some other guy was getting a blowjob. I was on overload.

As I felt my orgasm start, I signaled for my wife to go down on me. Barbie continued jerking me for a moment, and then my wife’s hand took over as I shot a load into her mouth. She kept sucking me until I was done, and then she swallowed. A moment later, the couple next to us stopped fucking and stood up. I think they were just taking a break because the guy didn’t seem to have come yet. As all of us got dressed, we never said a word to each other, which was somewhat odd. A few minutes later, my wife and I were in a cab headed for home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? One funny thing my wife and I talked about was how Barbie was really squeezing my wife’s breasts hard! I had no idea, but my wife told me the next morning that they were still a bit sore. Coincidentally, I noticed that Barbie had had a boob job. Her tits looked great, but I have felt implants before and could tell that her implants were above the muscle, making her breasts feel somewhat stiff. Still, as I was coming into my wife’s mouth, I wasn’t overly concerned about the strange woman’s breast that I was playing with.

My wife still doesn’t love (or even like?) going to sex clubs; she does it because she’s ok with it and because she knows it makes me happy. I think we’ll probably go back to this one at some point in the next few months, and when we travel to Europe next year, we’re excited to try out a few clubs there — they look much more inviting. It’s all about the layout!

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? A little bit

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Group involvement is probably my biggest turn-on. Holding Barbie’s breast while she was being fucked, and feeling her body move forward and backward while my coming in my wife’s mouth was something I’ll fantasize to for quite some time. I also love seeing other women (and men) playing with my wife’s breasts and pussy while she and I are having sex. The whole group scene is wonderfully decadent — like living porn.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I was starting to regret it up until we joined the sexy couple on the bed. So I learned that we need to take more initiative and not just wait for some good-looking people to join us. That’s happened, but it’s less likely since people are shy.

I’d have liked to chat with the other couple afterward, even to say thanks, but they seemed preoccupied or aloof. And things didn’t get going at the club for over an hour. Plus there were not a lot of people having sex who I’d pay to see (which is, in fact, one way of looking at a sex club situation). We know for next time that we should just arrive late and hop right in.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was getting ready to give up on sex clubs until the end of this visit. To me, the point of going to a club is to watch other attractive couples have sex and then to join in with another couple. Unfortunately, most of the couples on hand were not especially good-looking, and many of the people were too shy to join in (at least by the time we left), so there wasn’t a lot for us to enjoy except each other … so then why pay all this money when we could just stay home and have awesome sex with each other while maybe watching porn? But last night ended on such a sexy high note that I want to go back at some point and try again. If we can get our batting average up over .500, I’ll be thrilled. Otherwise, we’ll stop going to clubs and will concentrate on other ways to have a sexy time. We’re really looking forward to our upcoming trip to Europe because of the much better sex clubs there.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I wish I’d had a sex club partner when I was younger. People our age are sometimes overlooked at clubs, even though we’re attractive and fit.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it should be viewed differently, without stigma, and although I think that monogamy works, I think that sex outside the relationship — under certain circumstances — can be really helpful for some people.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great. I wish you didn’t include people’s ages on the home page because folks tend to skip over stories where the person’s age is stated to be above, say, 40. My wife and I are in our late 40s (not 35), but you wouldn’t know it to look at us.

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