What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Portland, OR, United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Bookkeeper
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 21
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? A few

Fun with a Neighbor

How long ago did this hookup happen? A month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Mia is a fit black woman in her mid twenties, about five six or so with nice large d cup breasts and very dark skin. She has black cornrow hair. I met her the day I moved into my building. She had always been friendly and a touch flirty but when we first met she had a boyfriend and me a girlfriend. I had seen her around at building functions or at the gym a few times. I had always thought Mia was attractive and had heard she likes white guys but had never pursued anything with her.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I hadn’t been with anyone since a one night stand with an ex a few months before. I had been dating a little but not much since my last girlfriend and I had split up. I remember it was a Saturday and I was feeling a bit lonely. I had seen Mia at the gym that morning and we went to coffee after and talked and flirted a bit but she had to go to work for a bit but we had decided to have dinner.
Mia knocked on my door in the early afternoon. We started talking and flirting a bit and brushing against each other and then kissed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was almost as if a switch flipped, Mia and I ended up on the couch making out. We made out for a bit and clothes came off and we eventually moved to the bedroom. I was quite impressed with her body and her breasts were a bit bigger than I thought. I sucked on them for a bit before penetrating her and fucked her missionary for a while. Mia got very loud and I finished inside her.
We sat talking and laughing for a bit with her hand on my cock stroking it a bit. We asked about each other’s tattoos and I also learned it had been a while since someone had fucked her. After a bit she moved down and began to lick my cock and suck on it. Mia gave me oral for a bit and had be quite hard before she mounted me and bounced up and down until she came and I finished inside her again. We relaxed for a bit again and cuddled until she kissed me goodbye and went back to her place.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Mia and I have hooked up a bunch of times since and I really like her. I have a few hesitations about pursuing a relationship with her. First I was seeing someone else when we started who I feel was relationship material but we hadn’t had sex. I am not one to be seeing one girl while fucking another so I need to break things off with the other girl. Second I am not sure how much Mia and I have in common outside of the bedroom but I am going to ask her to dinner and find out. Either way I doubt the sex will stop anytime soon. Lastly I was involved with a black woman for a while and we split up because her parents didn’t like me because I was white so I am a touch hesitant. However I would like to maybe pursue things with Mia.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Haven’t told anyone, despite the fact that Mia is quite eager and open about sex with me she has made it clear that her desires and urges in that area are quite private. If we do become a couple I might tell people then.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I would say the sex has been very good.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That this may not go anywhere.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This hasn’t really changed how I feel about casual sex or sexuality but I have felt a lot less lonely and better about myself since I started sleeping with Mia.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has been a part of my life usually it’s some quick fun with someone. I am hoping that I can have more in the context of a realationship.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting

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