What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? New Zealand, Wellington
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Fluid
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 19
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Game Changer

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a girl I knew through work, Molly, and was the first woman I have had full sexual relations with. I knew her as a friendly acquaintance before the hookup, but had been attracted to her since she served me at the restaurant she worked at before we properly met. She is super hot and confident and definitely the first girl I knew I needed to fuck/ had an ongoing crush on.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup happened one night after a gig we were both supposed to go to, but she ended up having to work. I had invited her a few nights prior and grabbed her number to text through plans. That was the moment I knew I was going to make it happen. I found out that she had broken up with her girlfriend, and the looks we were exchanging was pulling me deeper and deeper into needing her. We were texting throughout the gig and then a group of us met up at another bar afterwards, which led to us getting closer and closer until I asked her to come home with me at the end of the night.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The initial hook up happened at my place. It was late, around 4:30am but we both had gained a burst of renewed energy. We started hooking up while grinding on each other, pressing our bodies hard against one another, while taking turns sucking on one another’s breasts. I was so excited this was finally happening and we were both going crazy over each others bodies, I wanted to lick and kiss her everywhere. She smelt amazing and her skin was so soft. We took turns going down on each other and I sat on her face while she poked me, it was so intimate and hot, it didn’t take much for both of us to come. I couldn’t keep my hands off of her and we took up where we left off the next morning, then multiple times since.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup we continued to text and hang out and fuck. It’s been 6 weeks and that has pretty much been the pattern of events since then. I am still totally into her and she only gets hotter the longer it goes on. For it being the first time I had sex with a woman it felt really natural and easy, I think thats also due to the build up and prolonged attraction before the hookup, plus how long I had been fantasising over it.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Close friends. Workmates. Excited and intrigued!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Tasting her.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup?

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I always thought of myself as bi-sexual beforehand but this confirmed that having sex with a woman was not that big a deal for me. It was fun, and my standpoint has always been that I’m attracted to people, regardless of gender definitions.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am a huge supporter of safe, open, and happy casual sex with both (or all) parties involved consenting. I think there needs to be a lot more education in schooling and social media in general to inform people, especially those recently becoming sexually active, on how important EXPLICIT consent and openness is in the bedroom to ensure a happy and fun experience for everyone involved. You should be able to communicate with your partner exactly what you want and need + vice versa. Also outdated and bullshit misogynistic idealisations of masculinity, femininity and how they relate to sex and sexual orientation need to get out of our social dialogue and consciousness all together.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Awesome! Such a good platform for shared experience