What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Musician
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I went to a park that had a reputation as a gay cruising area – first time I’ve ever done this. Had oral sex with four men anonymously. First was young, dark skinned, tall, long hair, muscly. Second was also dark skinned, smaller, young and fit. Other two were older, overweight.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning – spontaneous curiosity.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I sucked four men’s cocks. One came in my mouth, one came on my face, the other two let me suck them for a while and then moved on to other partners.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was slightly shocked at my own recklessness, but excited at what I had done. The whole experience was unexpected and shocking, but felt like a fulfilment of curiosity about a scene I had never explored. It left me feeling I probably didn’t need to do it again, fun as it was.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Exciting new experience; feeling a hot guy I didn’t know come in my mouth.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It felt so fun and easy but I was worried about my partner, STDs etc.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It helped me accept that casual sex within a relationship could be ok, didn’t affect how I felt about my partner but it fulfilled other needs/interests/curiosities.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It would be good for everyone if casual sex came with less societal moral judgement. I think more people would be happier if they could recognise/accept that sometimes sex can be experienced as a basic biological function first, emotional vehicle for human connection second.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great idea
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