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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Technician
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bottom type; submissive
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Gay Incounter

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was slim and neat, with reddish hair, mustache and goatee. I had never met this person before. I met him outside a gay bar in my hometown. After talking with this person for a very short period of time I found I was very attracted to him and desperately wanted to try gay sex with him. He was very pleasant and bold; I sensed he wanted to have sex with me also.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After a very short time of him asking me questions he bluntly stated, “It seems you’re looking for a good ass fucking aren’t you? If you are, I’m your man.” I was stunned and delighted at the same time. I had wanted to try gay sex for a very long time and was just not brave enough to go for it until that night. I had such a tremendous build up of desire and curiosity that I had decided to find someone to have same sex with. And here he was standing in front of me; I just couldn’t resist.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went back to my apartment, had a beer and started making out. We were on the couch and soon he was giving me oral. I couldn’t wait to see and touch his cock. He stood up and pulled his clothes off while I did the same. I remember just staring at his cock intensely and wanting it in my mouth so badly. Once I got his cock in my mouth I felt so right in doing this: I mean, I felt I was finally having the kind of sex I should have always had. I began to feel “girly”: like I was his girl. I also wanted him to fuck me badly. He put me on my back and fucked me hard and talked dirty to me; calling me his bitch, slut and whore. I loved that he talked dirty to me; it was a real turn on. He was a real good fucker; turning me over and doing me from behind and back over again. I found the best position for me was on my back, legs spread wide, face to face. He finally pulled out and shot his load in my face. I had never eaten cum before but I did that night. He then went down on me and I came in his mouth and he shared my cum with me. He spent the night and we had another sex session in the morning. He was a married man about age 30 or so.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards I thought I was totally gay. I hooked up with other gay men for awhile but never broke up with my girlfriend. I discovered I was bisexual. I eventually married my girlfriend. She does not know I am bisexual.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Many years later I told a lesbian co-worker about my experience and she was very surprised. She had no idea I was bisexual and thought I was the last person on earth to have gay sex. I hide it very well.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was out of this world. The best sex I ever had. Sucking cock and especially being fucked in the ass by a man is the best sex ever for me; even though I still enjoy sex with a female; just not as much as with a man. I am a very submissive, slutty type, bottom bisexual male.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. It was one of the best events of my life.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I discovered who I am and what I am. I do have serious thoughts of becoming openly bisexual and have a wife and a boyfriend.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I wish I had not waited so long to try gay sex. I might not be married and life maybe would not be so complicated. Being in the closet bisexually is difficult and some what frustrating. I really sometimes think I just might be totally gay; I least that’s the way I felt for a long time after this hook up.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Oh gosh, casual sex can be very helpful as long as no one gets hurt or destroyed in the process. It helped me to see the real me; a bisexual man who loves men and women and hopes for a strong relationship with another man one day.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great. I think it can be very helpful and enlightening for many people; straight, gay, lesbian or bisexual.

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