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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Closeted bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2 or 3

Gay Shower Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met in high school. He was about 6’2’’, athletic built, and had fully tattooed sleeves. He was always gay. Even though we were just friends, he’d always try to flirt with me. I was never into guys in high school. It wasn’t until I was in my early 20’s where I started to get curious about having sex with other men. Before this happened I had been with a few guys but nothing serious. He was the only person I told this too

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After messaging him back and forth about my first gay sex experience, he wanted to meet up and talk more about it. I said “Are you asking me out?” He said “maybe.” I told him I wasn’t really interested in dating guys and he said, “let me try to change your mind.” I said “ok.” We met up for dinner at a pizza place we went to in high school and afterward, he asked if I could come back to his place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We talked for a while and I asked if I could use his shower cause I needed to cool off after a hot day. I couldn’t have been in the shower for a few minutes and I heard the door open and it was him, completely naked and asked, “mind if I join you?” I started to get really horny just seeing him there. He walked into the shower and started kissing me out of nowhere. He then said, “I’ve been wanting this for a long time.” I said, “I was confused for a long time but I wanted this too”. We continued to kiss each other and then I got down on my knees and started sucking him. I told him after that I wanted him inside me. So I turned around with my hands on the shower window. He started to finger my ass a little before he stuck his cock in me. He fucked me like this for a while before he forced me back on my knees and blew a huge load of cum all over my face and mouth. I told him he had the tastiest cum of any guy I’ve been with

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterward, it was pretty late so I decided to stay the night. We fell asleep in each other’s arms in his bed. I wasn’t sure for a while if I wanted this but I couldn’t help myself. We were in love. We were together for quite some time until we broke up

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal, Exchanged recent STI test results

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one except the two of us

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Learning what it was like to fall in love with another man

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Still technically in the closet, I didn’t feel the need to have people know about my sex life but that may change. When the time is right, I’ll tell my family and friends

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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