What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 56
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Editor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 150+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? (not sure, tried to post a first post yesterday but it seemed like my submission bounced).

Gay Three-Way in Bathhouse

How long ago did this hookup happen? 19 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A couple: one with dark hair, shoulder length, smooth, average cock about 6-7 inches and thinnish, late 20s; the other meaty but not fat, shaved chest, shortish medium-brown hair, big cock 9 inches and thick. Met them late at night in one of Barcelona’s three main bathhhouses in the late 90s.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Bathhouses are super sexy places for me. They exist solely for guys to have sex with one another. You wander around in the dark labyrinth with a towel around your waist, looking for someone who turns you on. While doing so, you see other guys having sex – giving a blow job, or better yet being fucked or even better yet, a bunch of guys taking turns fucking another guy or more generally having group sex, all on display for you to see – something I find extremely hot. When I lived in Barcelona in the late 90s, I went once a week. This particulary instance, I poked my head in a door to find the dark-haired and big-cocked couple. I gave them the universal eyebrow lift “are you interested” look and they let me in (to my surprise. At that point I considered myself not much of a prize, with my prematurely grey hair. Looking back on it, I was pretty hot though, thin and in good shape with a nice body and a big cock of my own, thick 9 inches).

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After they let me in, we shut the door and we dropped our towels and started in on the sex, the dark-haired guy sucking me off and the big-cocked guy standing on the platform I was sitting on and fucking my face. Fairly quickly, with minimal conversation they let me know that they wanted me to fuck the big-cocked guy. It seemed like the dark-haired guy wanted to give the big-cocked guy a taste of his own medicine – what it feels like to be fucked by a big cock – while at the same time the big-cocked guy wanted to be fucked by a big cock. I pulled on a condom and he sat on my cock while the dark-haired guy kissed me and watched. Eventually, I got the big-cocked guy on his back on the platform and started fucking him nice and medium-hard. I grabbed his cock as I was fucking him, but he pushed it away. I realized shortly that he was probably close to cumming and didn’t want to until I had cum. Which I soon did. Then he spurted all over his chest. I thanked them and left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I took a shower. No expectations from this, typical bathhouse sex. It was a very sexy encounter, one of my favorites.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I mentioned it once, briefly and without detail, to my now husband long ago. Not much reaction.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The big-cocked guy was very sexy – really nice non-gym body, big cock, very sexy mouth and lips.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing really. If I have to say, it’s that the big-cocked guy shaved his chest. Hairy is sexier if you’ve got it!

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Too bad casual sex is frowned on in our culture. Not nearly as much for gays but still. I look forward to when people have more realistic attitudes about sex: it’s a natural thing that comes in a multitude of forms.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Anything promoting better attitudes about sex gets my vote!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!